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Wow… some of you guys have it easy. If your parents not buying you a phone, shoes, or surge protectors are the worst things happening in your life, that’s not so bad. Look, it’s your parents. What they say goes, you don’t HAVE to like it, you just have to mind you parents and respect their decision. And whining and moaning about how bad their parenting skills are is kinda mean, since you’re the teenager living under their house. Just be a little more understanding, and they might be a little more rewarding.
Quote:quote:Originally posted by FirefoxManWow… some of you guys have it easy. If your parents not buying you a phone.. correction- the phone that YOU want, shoes, or surge protectors are the WORST things happening in your life, I envy you. Let’s wake up here people (when I say people, I mean a certain few, they know who they are), it’s your parents. What they say goes, you don’t HAVE to like it, you just have to mind you parents and respect their decision. And whining and moaning about how bad their parenting skills are is kinda childish, since well, you’re the teenager living under THEIR house! If some of you guys hate your parents so much, then why not leave, I mean, what’s the worst that could happen? But the point is that life isn’t going to end. The sun will come up in the morning, with or WITHOUT a surge protector for your computer, you will still live with or WITHOUT those shoes (i doubt it’s the only pair you own), and believe me, that phone is sufficient for your needs, it’s ridiculous to whine over that (has it ever occured to ya’ll that it maybe saves money by not getting a luxury phone?)
Amen.
Glad to see someone had the guts to say it.
Quote:quote:Originally posted by cuteb0mberchickwhat do you do when you wants to gain your parents trust?
Behave?
Quote:quote:Originally posted by FirefoxManWow… some of you guys have it easy. If your parents not buying you a phone.. correction- the phone that YOU want, shoes, or surge protectors are the WORST things happening in your life, I envy you. Let’s wake up here people (when I say people, I mean a certain few, they know who they are), it’s your parents. What they say goes, you don’t HAVE to like it, you just have to mind you parents and respect their decision. And whining and moaning about how bad their parenting skills are is kinda childish, since well, you’re the teenager living under THEIR house! If some of you guys hate your parents so much, then why not leave, I mean, what’s the worst that could happen? But the point is that life isn’t going to end. The sun will come up in the morning, with or WITHOUT a surge protector for your computer, you will still live with or WITHOUT those shoes (i doubt it’s the only pair you own), and believe me, that phone is sufficient for your needs, it’s ridiculous to whine over that (has it ever occured to ya’ll that it maybe saves money by not getting a luxury phone?)
You seemed to miss the point of why I made this topic. So all you people who “didn’t have the guts to say it” just sat there thinking of me as selfish and greedy while you read my post?
I was promised a better phone, only too have my mom change her mind. I was promised shoes, only to have my mom change her mind. I was promised a surge protector since my mom fried my computer (one switch is wired to all power, including light sockets, in the living room, and she got mad at my brother and flipped it), she changed her mind and took me almost a month later. If your promised a nice cell phone and you get all hyped up about getting it, and then your parents decide they don’t want to get a you a nice phone and can’t provide a reasonable explanation of why they don’t want you to have it, wouldn’t it bother you just a bit. It’s all the promises I am given and then only to have broken.
If she wouldve insisted in the first place that I get the worser phone, I would’ve been pleased, but after having her promise to get me a nice phone and then change her mind really got me mad. Waiting to get picked up for shoes and then having your mom pull up and tell you she doesn’t wanna go got me mad. She took me to circuit city, looked at the surge protectors, and then got mad at me for miscalculating the price of the protector (by about 15$) and turned and left me there as she walked straight out of the store and drove off (she came back 10 min later) without talking to me. That got me mad.
When I bought the very first phone I got, I went through hell just to have it. I was paying for it, and after choosing out a phone, I decided I was going to go ahead and buy a nicer one I found on the display. When I asked my mom if I could get it because it was a picture phone, she said no. Even though >I< was paying for it, she said I couldn't have it. I asked again why I couldn't have it if it was my money and she again said no. I assumed she mustve heard some story about how they are bad, and decided to ask her in the car. I asked her in the car and she told me to get out, give her the phone, and walk home. So I got out, kept the phone, and walked home. Now when she usually says stuff like that she expects you to breakdown and beg her to not make you get out of the car, but I decided to do what she says. It was around 9 PM, and when I got home 45 min later, she didn't care for me. She wanted to ground me for getting out of the car without giving her the phone.
Should be happy to be promised things and then find out I can’t have those things. Promises are NOT ment to be broken.
Quote:quote:Originally posted by Someguy03Quote:quote:Originally posted by FirefoxManWow… some of you guys have it easy. If your parents not buying you a phone.. correction- the phone that YOU want, shoes, or surge protectors are the WORST things happening in your life, I envy you. Let’s wake up here people (when I say people, I mean a certain few, they know who they are), it’s your parents. What they say goes, you don’t HAVE to like it, you just have to mind you parents and respect their decision. And whining and moaning about how bad their parenting skills are is kinda childish, since well, you’re the teenager living under THEIR house! If some of you guys hate your parents so much, then why not leave, I mean, what’s the worst that could happen? But the point is that life isn’t going to end. The sun will come up in the morning, with or WITHOUT a surge protector for your computer, you will still live with or WITHOUT those shoes (i doubt it’s the only pair you own), and believe me, that phone is sufficient for your needs, it’s ridiculous to whine over that (has it ever occured to ya’ll that it maybe saves money by not getting a luxury phone?)
You seemed to miss the point of why I made this topic. So all you people who “didn’t have the guts to say it” just sat there thinking of me as selfish and greedy while you read my post?
I was promised a better phone, only too have my mom change her mind. I was promised shoes, only to have my mom change her mind. I was promised a surge protector since my mom fried my computer (one switch is wired to all power, including light sockets, in the living room, and she got mad at my brother and flipped it), she changed her mind and took me almost a month later. If your promised a nice cell phone and you get all hyped up about getting it, and then your parents decide they don’t want to get a you a nice phone and can’t provide a reasonable explanation of why they don’t want you to have it, wouldn’t it bother you just a bit. It’s all the promises I am given and then only to have broken.
If she wouldve insisted in the first place that I get the worser phone, I would’ve been pleased, but after having her promise to get me a nice phone and then change her mind really got me mad. Waiting to get picked up for shoes and then having your mom pull up and tell you she doesn’t wanna go got me mad. She took me to circuit city, looked at the surge protectors, and then got mad at me for miscalculating the price of the protector (by about 15$) and turned and left me there as she walked straight out of the store and drove off (she came back 10 min later) without talking to me. That got me mad.
When I bought the very first phone I got, I went through hell just to have it. I was paying for it, and after choosing out a phone, I decided I was going to go ahead and buy a nicer one I found on the display. When I asked my mom if I could get it because it was a picture phone, she said no. Even though >I< was paying for it, she said I couldn't have it. I asked again why I couldn't have it if it was my money and she again said no. I assumed she mustve heard some story about how they are bad, and decided to ask her in the car. I asked her in the car and she told me to get out, give her the phone, and walk home. So I got out, kept the phone, and walked home. Now when she usually says stuff like that she expects you to breakdown and beg her to not make you get out of the car, but I decided to do what she says. It was around 9 PM, and when I got home 45 min later, she didn't care for me. She wanted to ground me for getting out of the car without giving her the phone.
Should be happy to be promised things and then find out I can’t have those things. Promises are NOT ment to be broken.
Promises shromises! Material possesions are silly in general anyways, I still don’t see any reason warranting to be as upset as you are. Your mom feeds you, is that not good enough for you?
I still think you’re overlooking how lucky you are.
Quote:quote:Originally posted by AnnaQuote:quote:Originally posted by cuteb0mberchickwhat do you do when you wants to gain your parents trust?
Behave?
how could you behave when someone easily pissed you off?
Quote:quote:Originally posted by cuteb0mberchickQuote:quote:Originally posted by AnnaQuote:quote:Originally posted by cuteb0mberchickwhat do you do when you wants to gain your parents trust?
Behave?
how could you behave when someone easily pissed you off?
Just don’t get pissed off. It’s just a matter of acceptance and self-restraint, and realizing just how lucky you are to have your parents feeding and housing you.
well…i never knew my parents until I was 10…and right now i’m 13 so thats only 3 years of having a parents.
I’m missing how that complies to what’s going on here. So you never knew them until you were 10, so? Regardless of age, you should always be respectful and grateful and realize how lucky you are, especially if you never knew them until then!
*sigh* I agree though that promises should not be broken, and really, I’m not saying that anyone here is spoiled or anything at all like that! I’m not at all like these “when I was your age” or these archaic negative people who want you to feel bad because you have it better than them, that’s not it at all! In the beginning, if anyone remembers, I started out just by suggesting things to make things smoother, tenderly suggesting some thoughtfulness and compliance and such on a few matters in order to make things more barable at home. I only later went at with my comparison to simply say that there are worse things than “boo hoo” matters and petty arguing.
I understand the extremes and the benine also, and if there is one thing I agree most definately is that parents should keep promises, everyone should keep promises. Promises should be kept, secrets should not be kept, lies diminished and truths laid in the open, and acceptance and forgiveness without unjust punishment…I agree whole heartedly and I think that those truths should be upheld above all others in a house to teach children understanding and a clear note of right and wrong.
Unfortunately…parents are not perfect. There are definately things that children put up with that they should not have to. Lies, broken promises, curses, abuse, abandoment…and so so much more, even benign things like white lies and mistruths to get a young child to do something can mess with them and, morally, are not right. Some people simply should not breed simply for the fact that they put disfunction in the heart of a child. The sad fact is that while this is happening, it can’t be helped. It’s tragic, I agree. It’s unfair, I agree. It’s ludacris, I agree. But it’s how it is. That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t rant about it, express frustration and anger, you -should- and I’m glad that you trust us all here enough to do so, and I’m sorry if you feel you put your trust illy in us and felt attacked.
The only thing you, as children of what you believe to be disfunctional parents, can do is simply remember that this is not right, and not let it warp your sense of being. To be strong and grow up to be ritious people that function well in the world. To remember how you felt, no matter how old you get, when your parents did those things, and not do just the opposite as them when you have children because that will just warp them another way, but do what you feel is right and do your best, for their sake, to be fair people.
Parents very rarely see how their actions and mood swings and poor reactions and such hurt the mind and spirit of a child, no matter the age. I’ve found especially baby boomer parents (no offence to anyone, this is just generalized) because they themselves grew up a bit backwards. Older people who grew up in times of restraint and booming war and times when divorce was unheard of so they lived horrid lives with parents who didn’t get along anyway, or even worse, went through the divorce and felt the shunning of the world at their parents failures…it was a delicate time and because of that, I think a lot of parents these days are very self absorbed and flawed in their ideals and selfishness.What I’ve always found in all of this…is to just be -aware-. Be aware that something is or is not right. Be aware of foolishness, and this means your own too! Be aware and make note in your mind. Don’t try to correct the wrong that’s been done, that will just frustrate people, but take steps in order to -prevent- it. And if there is nothing, be secure in your knowlege that it is not right and don’t let it shake you. Don’t let broken promises weigh you down or become hoarding. Don’t let sarcastic remarks make you hard and steely. Don’t let lack of thanks and orders turn your heart cold and unappreciative. Don’t let a lack of emotion and understanding turn you into a statue of ice. Just be aware and counteract it. Be secure in your knowlege that it is wrong and don’t let it shake you and your own sense of right and wrong.
Don’t mistake this for being self ritious. Be able to admit when you’re blowing things out of proportion, acting foolishly, being hurtful, and be appologetic, forgiving and patient, this is essance will make you a better person, and nobody can argue or be hurtful to someone who is such things and outwardly understanding without something being very, very wrong with them. And sometimes that’s the case, and you just have to know when to walk away.
…god I rant too much…mind you, I’m restraining myself right this moment from deleting all of this and walking away…so we’ll see the reaction tomorrow…
Quote:quote:Originally posted by AnnaQuote:quote:Originally posted by Someguy03Quote:quote:Originally posted by FirefoxManWow… some of you guys have it easy. If your parents not buying you a phone.. correction- the phone that YOU want, shoes, or surge protectors are the WORST things happening in your life, I envy you. Let’s wake up here people (when I say people, I mean a certain few, they know who they are), it’s your parents. What they say goes, you don’t HAVE to like it, you just have to mind you parents and respect their decision. And whining and moaning about how bad their parenting skills are is kinda childish, since well, you’re the teenager living under THEIR house! If some of you guys hate your parents so much, then why not leave, I mean, what’s the worst that could happen? But the point is that life isn’t going to end. The sun will come up in the morning, with or WITHOUT a surge protector for your computer, you will still live with or WITHOUT those shoes (i doubt it’s the only pair you own), and believe me, that phone is sufficient for your needs, it’s ridiculous to whine over that (has it ever occured to ya’ll that it maybe saves money by not getting a luxury phone?)
You seemed to miss the point of why I made this topic. So all you people who “didn’t have the guts to say it” just sat there thinking of me as selfish and greedy while you read my post?
I was promised a better phone, only too have my mom change her mind. I was promised shoes, only to have my mom change her mind. I was promised a surge protector since my mom fried my computer (one switch is wired to all power, including light sockets, in the living room, and she got mad at my brother and flipped it), she changed her mind and took me almost a month later. If your promised a nice cell phone and you get all hyped up about getting it, and then your parents decide they don’t want to get a you a nice phone and can’t provide a reasonable explanation of why they don’t want you to have it, wouldn’t it bother you just a bit. It’s all the promises I am given and then only to have broken.
If she wouldve insisted in the first place that I get the worser phone, I would’ve been pleased, but after having her promise to get me a nice phone and then change her mind really got me mad. Waiting to get picked up for shoes and then having your mom pull up and tell you she doesn’t wanna go got me mad. She took me to circuit city, looked at the surge protectors, and then got mad at me for miscalculating the price of the protector (by about 15$) and turned and left me there as she walked straight out of the store and drove off (she came back 10 min later) without talking to me. That got me mad.
When I bought the very first phone I got, I went through hell just to have it. I was paying for it, and after choosing out a phone, I decided I was going to go ahead and buy a nicer one I found on the display. When I asked my mom if I could get it because it was a picture phone, she said no. Even though >I< was paying for it, she said I couldn't have it. I asked again why I couldn't have it if it was my money and she again said no. I assumed she mustve heard some story about how they are bad, and decided to ask her in the car. I asked her in the car and she told me to get out, give her the phone, and walk home. So I got out, kept the phone, and walked home. Now when she usually says stuff like that she expects you to breakdown and beg her to not make you get out of the car, but I decided to do what she says. It was around 9 PM, and when I got home 45 min later, she didn't care for me. She wanted to ground me for getting out of the car without giving her the phone.
Should be happy to be promised things and then find out I can’t have those things. Promises are NOT ment to be broken.
Promises shromises! Material possesions are silly in general anyways, I still don’t see any reason warranting to be as upset as you are. Your mom feeds you, is that not good enough for you?
I still think you’re overlooking how lucky you are.
Cmon, go easy on me. You must want SOME material luxuries too. Doesn’t everyone? But its more the fact that she breaks her promises then that I didn’t get the nicest and the best when I wanted it.
Rabit Kitten– I don’t feel attacked, I just thought some of you misinterpreted my post. And I will admit I can’t appreciate the importance of certain parts of life as much as some of you, and I believe it is because I haven’t gone through the experiences some of you have. I’ve just turned 15 (though I might sound older) and haven’t….seen the light yet?
To: Someguy03
If your mother always breaks her promises so I think you should know better…(don’t get too excited when she promise you to buy something)Someguy03 is only 15, lets all stop posting about his problems. Haha but seriously, thanks for the advice girls / guys. I went to Circuit City with my mom to get a new CD burner and instead of begging for the CD burner that could also play DVD’s, I just got the CD burner. It went very well.
Quote:quote:Originally posted by Someguy03Someguy03 is only 15, lets all stop posting about his problems. Haha but seriously, thanks for the advice girls / guys. I went to Circuit City with my mom to get a new CD burner and instead of begging for the CD burner that could also play DVD’s, I just got the CD burner. It went very well.
I would have begged and argued that the one that plays DVD’s too is more worth the money. =D
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