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April 25, 2004 at 8:54 pm #3930HasanMember
I’ve noticed people dont post much regarding relations and stuff.
So I thought maybe i’ll start a thread.
You can say anything off your chest; be it one line.
Anyone?I’ve started getting counselling sessions because of what I’m going through.
April 27, 2004 at 12:31 am #46277Someguy03MemberI’m having trouble concentrating on HW
A good example would be a penathlon I heard about on the news (school teams compete to see whos smartest) where the winning teams smartest kid was getting C’s in his classes and all the other kids on the team were getting A’s. He is now getting A’s because he was inspired, but thats a good example of what im having trouble with. Don’t have any motivation at home to do HW and am not working at my full potential even thought I know that I could if I wanted to. It’s very annoying.
April 27, 2004 at 12:34 am #46276DavidParticipantQuote:quote:Originally posted by someguy03I’m having trouble concentrating on HW
I can’t concentrate on school in general. 😮
April 27, 2004 at 1:33 am #46282TigerbladeParticipantmy solution to not being able to concentrate on school…. stop caring 🙂 works wonders. although I actually havent had much homework recently…
on a side note, the weather here sucks
April 27, 2004 at 12:12 pm #46271sciencefeelingMemberI have the same problem, for years now, and I didn´t get to a definite solution.
This might sound a little weird, but I think it helps being into a group to get motivated and focused. Therefore, when other people achieve their goals and you don´t, makes you think about why and try to solve it. On the other hand, having people to share your frustrations with is enriching too, because they can look at your situation from a more objective point of view.
My idea is, given that lots of us seem to have the same problem, share it with one another.
Everybody seem to agree that the best thing to get organized is to set goals. Divide your goals in Inmediate, Near future, Mid-term goals, Long-term goals, and Life goals.
This excercise alone of writting down your goals will clarify a lot inside you, take your time to do it, and think about them. Then, your daily goals will be focused on reaching your inmediate goals. Every night, or early morning, you should revise your daily goals and order them from most important to least important. Sometimes I do lots of stuff in one day, but stuff that was not necessary while I leave for tomorrow what is really important to do. The trick is not to bypass an step. If something is in the first place on your list you have to force yourself to do it BEFORE you go to the next step, that way, what you do is always what needs to be done, and not what you feel like doing.
Ehem…we can start altogether to do this if you guys want, we will all get something good out of this!!, what I read is that if you start doing this EVENTUALLY you become organized..lol, we will see.
Anyone with me in the “get organized and focused league”?
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May 6, 2004 at 3:16 pm #46281TigerbladeParticipantQuote:quote:Originally posted by sciencefeelingI have the same problem, for years now, and I didn´t get to a definite solution.
it’s a problem?? :p
May 6, 2004 at 4:07 pm #46274OreoMemberBeing a teacher I have this problem sometimes and I am on the OTHER side of the problem as well. I see students who are SUPER smart…but can’t get motivated. Personally, I try different ways to get them motivated and it doesn’t always work. You YOURSELF have to find motivation and then reach out to teachers, profs whoever, that try to help you. I know it sucks to hear that….how I get motivated is I try to find SOMETHING positive in everything I’m doing. Even if I hate what I’m doing….the positive thing I find about it is the best and quickest way to get through it. Really all that is just like Science was saying, making goals…if you look at school like a race or challenge to be met you can make a sort of “game” out of it…and it’s not such a nasty task.
And just so you don’t think I’m another preachy teacher, I suffered through school for a long time until I found a way to motivate myself…I had some good teachers who helped me, and I even had good teachers before I found my motivation…but until I was ready personally…they only helped a little bit.EDIT: P.S. As far as venting goes, I am just about to scream because I have the most ANNOYING neighbors…they are LOUD and SUPER inconsiderate! Their friends always park in our driveway without persmission and they say “He’ll be right out” when we ask them to move. And the son of the woman who lives there is a judge so we can’t call the police b/c they won’t do anything and we live in a place where everyone is corrupt! AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH! Thanks for letting me vent…I needed that.
May 6, 2004 at 4:51 pm #46270sciencefeelingMemberQuote:quote:Originally posted by TigerbladeQuote:quote:Originally posted by sciencefeelingI have the same problem, for years now, and I didn´t get to a definite solution.
it’s a problem?? :p
Well YES. When I was in high school I felt it didnt matter, cause I still had the best grades, and I was better than anyone else, so..why should I care?
BUT the fact is, when you grow up, you realize it is not related to studies but it is, in fact, a Modus vivendi, that is, a way of life.
If you don´t educate your habits, in the future, when you have long term projects to achieve at work, long-term goals, and they are not fun, it WILL be a problem. Because, no matter how smart you are, there are things that require focusing and dedication in more dose than intelligence. In my opinion, hard-work and organization is what makes excepcionally inteligent and achieving people different from smart mediocres (this last is the catergory where I believe to stand):D.
I said.
N.-May 6, 2004 at 7:23 pm #46267Jeff HesterKeymasterI agree with sciencefeeling — it helps to have friends that will keep you accountable and let you know when you’re veering off-track.
As for tools, I am decidedly old-school. For me, technology itself can become a distraction, so I use an old-fashioned solution involving paper and pen. It’s a planner from FranklinCovey. They have a system for managing your time and activities that works something like this:
You start by defining what is important to you in each area of your life (personal, business or school, etc.), prioritizing so you know what matters most.
My planner has two pages for each day. The left page has a task list and hourly schedule. The right page is for notes.
Effective use of the task list is the key. In the list, you write down all the things you plan to do on that day. If it’s something that I plan to do in the future, I’ll write it on the task list for that date, then give myself permission to forget about it until it’s time for action.
Early in the day, I review the list and prioritize each item (weighing their importance against the values I’ve previously defined). If it’s something that I must do today, it gets coded with an “A.” If I should do it today, it gets a “B,” and if I’d like to do it today, it gets a “C.” Something that I’ll do when I get home gets a “D.”
Then I go through all the “A’s” and prioritize them (1, 2, 3, 4, …). On my hourly schedule, I may have meetings or events blocked out, but I’ll also block out time for me to get my work done. Then I simply tackle each item, in order (A1, A2, A3, …, B1, B2, …).
The beauty of this system is that it ensures that I devote my time to the things that are most important. The challenge is keeping it realistic. It’s easy to load things up to the point where it’s virtually impossible to get everything done.
If something doesn’t get done, I’ll carry it over to the next day, or delegate it to someone else if I can.
You have to find the tools that work well for you, but this one works for me.
May 6, 2004 at 7:23 pm #46280TigerbladeParticipantthis is true, and yes I know exactly what you mean… I was valedictorian of my high school, made it all the way through four years of that place with no real motivation other than to make my parents happy. college, same story, except I dont really care all that much if my parents like my grades – i’m doing it for myself now. my “motivation” is that eventually i’ll get a good job and make some money
May 6, 2004 at 7:38 pm #46268detn8rParticipantWhy the %&*$ must everyone jam through one door when there are two, and sometimes even three?!
I just had to say it… it bugs me EVERYTIME I walk up and down the stairs.
And on the same subject, once pushing through the one door, they have the nerve to just stop in the door way, and you have to walk in a maze to get out. Grrrr……… 🙁
May 7, 2004 at 5:32 pm #46273OreoMemberIt’s the lemming/sheep effect…..every year lemmings dive off cliffs to their deaths because the one in front of them did it. And they stop perhaps because they get distracted by something and don’t realize that other people exist in the universe and parking their fat behinds in a doorway might make it hard for 20 other people…because remember…they don’t realize they exist. 🙂
May 14, 2004 at 11:24 pm #46286HasanMemberI’m quite happy and relaxed since I’m done coding GM Scripting Engine and I can study in peace and prepare for the finals.
May 29, 2004 at 8:42 pm #46285HasanMember[Encrypted]
May 31, 2004 at 2:08 pm #46269sciencefeelingMemberHi Hassan, this girl here, me, does not really understand the point of you message..would you please clarify for me?.
Thank you,
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