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Hey everybody,
I am new here. I thought if somebody is online/invisible you can send her/him files, not when she is really offline. I can send my girlfriend who lives far away from me the files very easily when she was offline/invisible, so I assume she must be online while she might be invisible to me, so I accussed her for lying to me. She is at the Internetcafe and said me she doesn´t have much time to talk with me and had to go immediately. I didn´t trust her and one quarter after she ´left´ me, I tried to send the file to her and suddenly I can send her files easily, even she is offline/invisible, even some hours later. I sent her messages, but she didn´t react. I thought because she wanted to make real she was offline.
But now, it is really late and I still could send her the files. So I must be wrong? So you could send somebody the files, even when she is offline? Her Yahoo accepts my files automatically, I see.
I hope to hear of your answer(s) soon, because I will have to apologize her. 🙁A few things I would suggest:
1) She may be connected but not there and she may be configured to accept all files sent to her.
2) Maybe she is busy without time to talk to you but wanted to see what you were sending her.
3) THIS IS THE MOST IMPORTANT, T-R-U-S-T, you need to TRUST her…unless she has given you a conrete reason (i.e. cheated on you and you KNOW it…or given you a reason not to trust her) chances are that she really has not done anything. We all get short on time, and it IS particullarly difficult when the relationship is long distance. But that’s when the trust thing comes in.
Also, Yahoo! is not a stable and realiable creature….it has its quirks (just like we humans do!). It may be best to just have a phone call and speak rationally with your girlfriend. Sometimes, showing mistrust leads to bad things… because one feels that no matter what, the one they love does not trust one anyway. that’s just my advice.
I wish you all the best.:)Like Oreo says, Yahoo is very unstable. You cannot trust the lights being on. I have missed many a conversation with my dearest friend because the lights were messed up. YaPoo! The best thing now is, if you have had nasty words, is to make up and blame Yahoo for the problem. Life’s too short for this kind of stuff.
Wow ! What an answer with full of wisdom that gave Oreo ! You’d better proceed as she invited you to do, Kuifje. And you shouldn’t consider that no wanting to chat with you (at a certain time) means that you’re friend is unfair with you (unless you have the proof of course).
Another thing about Y!M : I’m not sure it’s possible to send a file a person whose status is set to “invisible”. If it’s so, it might be because of a problem, or one of you two is using another instant messaging client or…. you’ve found a bug in Yahoo Messenger 🙂
And as it’s been said, Y!M is as unpredictable as a woman…. errr sorry, I meant “a human” 😮
What if she left her computer with the messenger on invisible, but someone got on her computer and logged her off? Or she got disconnected?
Quote:quote:Originally posted by ghostphaseWe haven’t been together very long but I trust her so far since she hasn’t given me a reason not to.
Thanks for all the help and please feel free to respond to this at my screenname: gaboredman (on yahoo) I will get it faster.
First off…you don ‘t trust her…not completely or you would not be posting this here. (That’s my take on things) Second, Yahoo is odd. It is an imperfect creature like all of us are, it does some things, like log people out much after they’ve gone offline. My OWN sister, the person that shares the most similar DNA to me (besides my other siblings) SHE seemed to have done the SAME thing to me. 😮 So One day on the phone I said “Hey, the strangest thing happened, you are still online but you logged out. She said “Yeah that is strange” During our phone call….she logged out…. BUT THIS WAS BEFORE DSL! EGADS! It was YAHOO!!! IT WAS NOT HER! 😡 OH THE HORROR!
My point: STOP USING ONLINE HABITS AS CERTAINTY THAT SOMEONE IS CHEATING OR LYING. As for the screen names. When you log in…all screen names appear as online unless one configures them not to be online. I’ve even had names that I had long ago erased she me as online on someone else’s friend list…. so really… Yahoo is not the best “spy” tool you can use, maybe you should hire a private eye.
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