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December 4, 2004 at 6:50 pm #15157AqeelParticipant
Is there somebody who/her fall in love on Net? Is it possilbe to find a deep lover while chating online? Do you are planing to find your soul mate online?
If, then share your experinces and thoughts, don’t be shy…;)December 4, 2004 at 8:07 pm #107237AqeelParticipantUmmmmnnn… it’s about an hour, but I didn’t found anyone interested in love here. 10 reads but no reply….
December 4, 2004 at 9:59 pm #107218AnnaParticipantThis is a forum, not a chat service. You may not get a response for days.
December 4, 2004 at 11:02 pm #107224MartinBradleyMemberI think you can get to know someone online, providing they are being genuine of course.
I know a girl who I met through a mate of mine, and have been speaking to her online for about 3 years. We have never met. We speak on the phone and such, and tell each other things which you might not tell other people, basically, we regard each other as good friends.
As for falling in ‘deep love’ with someone, hmm, i’m not so sure, I think you have to meet up and find out what that person is like in person.
December 5, 2004 at 9:57 am #107220DJHyperbyteMemberQuote:quote:Originally posted by martin_bradley2002As for falling in ‘deep love’ with someone, hmm, i’m not so sure, I think you have to meet up and find out what that person is like in person.
It all depends on you. There are only two differences between talking to someone on the phone and talking to someone in real life.
a. You can see them (although that can be done with webcam/pictures also)
b. You can touch themNow the last one is very important. It could be that someone who loves to hold hands and someone who hates to hold hands get along fine on the internet/phone, but as soon as they hold hands in real life things don’t go well anymore. But, speaking from my own experience, yes – it is very well possible to fall deeply in love with someone over the internet. It depends on how much you value ‘a great character and good conversations’ above ‘good looks and being intimate with someone’.
December 5, 2004 at 6:20 pm #107238AqeelParticipantummnnn… problem is this that one of my friends here is finding himself in deep love with a girl whome he never met in real life but online, with a webcam or on phone. They are talking non-stop to each other, daily from last 6 months. They talk mostly about 2 to 5 hours in the night. And the most important is this that… Soon they are going to merry, they already had done paper marraige!!
December 5, 2004 at 6:28 pm #107225MartinBradleyMemberWe had a debate about this in English Language.
Basically, it was put forward that you can only get to know someone to a certain extent online, i.e. without talking on the phone or in person.
The reason for this is that you do not have vocal features, nor do you get the body language.
I think you can become attached to someone online, however I guess my interpretation of ‘deep love’ is different to some others. I’m only speaking from the experience i’ve had, I may just have had a bad experience.
December 5, 2004 at 6:49 pm #107221OreoMemberIt all depends on how truthful one is being. To get married without first meeting each other is a little too wishful in my humble opinion. Some people are different online than they are offline. Also, you don’t really know if this person is telling the truth or WHY they would marry someone without:
1. Seeing them
2. Hearing them
3. Being comfortable in public walking around with them.Six months is a VERY short time in which in get married even if you know the person face-to-face.
December 5, 2004 at 7:03 pm #107239AqeelParticipantMartin you are right, you had got a bad experince and your interpretation of ‘deep love’ is different to some others. But today when internet is influencing at such an extent in our lifes. Dose it’s not possible to have fall in love with person online.
December 5, 2004 at 7:12 pm #107231bronxyMemberIt so is possible to fall in love with someone online. I have.
December 5, 2004 at 7:13 pm #107240AqeelParticipantWell Oreo! let’s think about a different environment, east. We are here in south asia, right here people get marry to those whome they don’t know. Just parents asked them to marry and they will do so. Society and values of society are so strict that may be when it would it be time for my marriage. It’s possible that my parents show me pic of some girl and ask me to marry her. And the same situation to the girl. And in 80 to 90% cases the boy and girl will show their obedience and do what their parnets are aksing.
Keeping that situation in mind think once agian that 6 months are less to know someone in Pakisatn or India?
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Well Bronxy you too:) Would you like to share your experince.December 5, 2004 at 7:24 pm #107222OreoMemberTrue, I had a good friend at University that was promised from the time she was five or six(Maybe older…I just remember she was YOUNG when she knew). (She was Indian) She knew she had to marry this man she hardly knew…but that’s an arranged thing…that’s something one cannot really control (depending on the society). But over the Internet, when you have a choice…it’s nicer to take things a little bit more slowly to make sure you are compatible in more than just online situations…get a chance to know the person and how you two will get along together. To make sure she doesn’t have an annoying laugh that will drive you nuts in one year…to make sure he doesn’t treat people he sees on the street with disrespect. To get to know each others family. I mean, marriage is a lifetime thing, if you have a choice about whom you will marry, the odds change a bit…no matter where you live. Of course, also no matter where you live, it’s always better to have ones parents agree to the match. 🙂
December 5, 2004 at 7:56 pm #107241AqeelParticipantYour are right, I too agrees that marriage is not just a relationship between a couple but it’s a relation between two families.:)
My friend and his beloved, they too think that they are going to give their families a chance still then they will hide thier marriage. And try to live a normal life.
But Oreo dear’ what about the situation if there familes say, ‘NO’.December 5, 2004 at 8:16 pm #107223OreoMemberWhen families say “NO” that’s the hardest thing of all. If the couple TRULY love one another it’s up to all parties concerned to make adjustments. If the families LOVE their son/daughter, and feel that even though they do not agree with the choice, their son/daughter is happy…then they may have to put their differences aside. Even if it goes against tradition…they must think about the people involved. They could always give the person they are not sure about a chance to prove him/herself. If the situation cannot be rectified…the couple have to make a descision…either abide by the families wishes and break off the relationship or tell the family that if they cannot accept the marriage then the couple will go it alone. BOTH of those options are terribly sad and difficult. But hiding the marriage is going to prove even more difficult because it will be like lying to the families and that (at least for me) would prove too difficult. I was lucky that both my husband’s family and my family accepted us and were happy that we married each other. I get along well with my in-laws and my husband and my parents sometimes get along better than I do with my parents! 😀
December 5, 2004 at 8:43 pm #107242AqeelParticipantWell you are lucky, indeed so lucky… My friend and his beloved are hiding their love because my friend is not established still now. I mean they are still studing. Tradition here is this that mostly girls are younger then their husbands. And after completing their education mostly they will not to do anything but just marriage. While the boy will had to take his time and establish him self, find some good job or establish a good business. So, I think that their official marriage can take up to 3 or 4 years from now. During all this time they want themselves to be commited with eachother.
Hiding your marriage and living with parents is really a diffuclt thing to do… you are true more then 100%:) -
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