Hi, is there anyone can help me?

Someone is invisible to me. I want to remove my id from their lists so that they will appear as visible to me. I used ZaksNoBuddy, DaB3, JAM to remove my id from others’ lists, but I can’t see them online. But if they removed my id by themselves, I would see them online. Is there any program to adjust the stealth setting when I remove my id from others’ lists? (~ I can see them online when I remove my id from their lists)

Thank you!