you know what you can do? I have my buddy list set up so that if I do not have anyone on my list, they can’t send me messages. only ppl on my buddy list can send me messages and stuff. if you set up your buddy list like mine, these people can still add you to THEIR list, but, they won’t be able to see you sign on and off…do you know what I am saying? like when one of your friends signs on, you can see it on your list…if the person who adds you to their list w/o your consent, your name will always remain in the “offline” category. I hope this helps you.
rae