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July 12, 2004 at 11:03 am #3058Jeff HesterKeymaster
I was testing aim, and I have someone blocked, but I found out they can turn right around and add me again and when they add you it doesn’t even show you that they added you like yahoo and msn. Anyway to stop someone from adding you on AIM without your consent?
July 12, 2004 at 5:12 pm #41802ladie_vennomMemberAs far as I know, anyone can just add you to their list, without asking u. Which is one of the few things I dont like about AIM.
August 3, 2004 at 2:45 pm #41806gossipingraeMemberyou know what you can do? I have my buddy list set up so that if I do not have anyone on my list, they can’t send me messages. only ppl on my buddy list can send me messages and stuff. if you set up your buddy list like mine, these people can still add you to THEIR list, but, they won’t be able to see you sign on and off…do you know what I am saying? like when one of your friends signs on, you can see it on your list…if the person who adds you to their list w/o your consent, your name will always remain in the “offline” category. I hope this helps you.
rae
August 7, 2004 at 5:22 am #41799Jeff HesterKeymasterHello Gossip,
I wish it did help. I tried your suggestion . I used aim+ and aim I added my daughters id to my aim through aim+ but before I did I set both of our messengers to Allow only users on my list to contact me. Well I was able to add her and it never notified me. I was also able to see when she signed on as well.
Would anyone else know of a program or of something on AIM that will not let people add me without my consent FIRST?
August 7, 2004 at 8:01 am #41803TigerbladeParticipantfrom the AIM Frequently Asked Questions:
Quote:quote:BuddylistQ: Is there a way to see who has added me to their AIM buddylist?
A: No.basically, no you cant see who has added you, you cant make it so you have to consent. if you want that you’ll have to use a different messenger like MSN. otherwise set it so that you get an Accept Message dialog from people not on your list, that’s as close as you can get. that way you can see the person’s name, warning level, and profile, then choose whether to respond to them or not.
August 7, 2004 at 10:25 am #41800Jeff HesterKeymasterTiger,
I do NOT want to see who has added me after they have already done it. I would like to know if there is a setting on aim that I might have missed to make them ask permission Before they add me. As I stated before I already have my aim set to only users who are on my contact list can IM me.
*Note* I did read the FAQ of Aim before I asked tyvm
Edit : I know how all of you feel about invading someones privacy, if you find this question annoying . Please remember that them being able to add you without your consent is invading the privacy of others too.
August 7, 2004 at 5:29 pm #41804TigerbladeParticipantQuote:quote:Originally posted by Tigerbladebasically, no you cant see who has added you, you cant make it so you have to consent. if you want that you’ll have to use a different messenger like MSN.
there is no such feature in aim, nor are there any add-on programs or anything else that will prevent people from adding you without your consent. its just how aim works. it might be crappy, but that’s AOL for you. if this is so important to you, well sorry but you’re really out of luck. your only chance of having control over who adds you is using a different messenger
besides, why does it matter so much if they add you? its not an invasion of privacy if they add you, its how instant messengers are designed to work.
if you have it set so they cant see you unless they’re on your buddylist, then what’s the difference? to anyone who added you “without permission” meaning they’re not on your list, you will never be online. so they cant see you, they cant IM you, they cant do anything to you.August 8, 2004 at 8:30 am #41801Jeff HesterKeymasterWell I can’t believe your asking me why its important to me. You think its ok for anyone to just be able to add you to their list? If its someone I’ve deleted I do NOT wish for them to be able to turn right around and add me back again.
As I stated before , I was able to add my daughter without it asking her , therefore I am able to see when she is online, putting it plainly if someone is harassing you or bothering you and you delete them , they can turn right around and add you back and somehow you think this isn’t of importance. Yes, I’ve got both messengers set to only people who are on my list can im me. In actuality If I decide to change this to block the people below it changes only users on my list can im me. Letting people add me without asking me. Its one or the other.
And I wanted to know because as I’ve mentioned I have a daughter, I do not want people adding her finding out she is on and then harassing her with another screen name. Not that you NEEDED to know WHY I wanted this information but there you have it.
Oh and no its Not how other messengers work, Yahoo asks your consent. Not sure about msn.
August 8, 2004 at 3:54 pm #41805TigerbladeParticipantyes, MSN does ask for your permission when someone else adds you to their contact list. sorry, i’ve never used Yahoo messenger so I dont know how that one or the others besides AIM and MSN work. so unfortunately the only answer I or anyone else can give you is that sorry you’re out of luck with AIM. it’s a crappy company that produces crappy products, and doesn’t care about quality or customer service, especially with AIM. free software. meaning they get diddlysquat out of it, so they put diddlysquat into it.
sorry, but that’s just how it is. I understand your concern about harassment, but that’s what the block feature is for. that’s as close as AIM can get you.
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