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Hi all beginner here,
I recently met this girl on a forum and she had msn so I then got it so that we could talk. We had a conversation that went alright. Then a couple of days later we chatted again with webcams and it was a bit more strained. I’m just not that great at talking online I guess:(
I want to talk to her again but I’m not sure if she wants to talk to me(don’t know if she likes me or not) and I don’t want to appear to be bothering her.
Anyway I just dont know how msn really works or how msn etiquette works. I mean when she comes online I get a message saying that she’s online. Does that mean that if i don’t say something to her it will look like I don’t want to talk to her?
Also if she comes online and sees that I’m online, I was thinking that she might feel that she has to talk to me, because she will have realised that I will have recieved a message saying shes online.
I don’t want her to feel like she has to talk to me.
Sorry for my long post and if my questions are a bit stupid.:)
Thanks for any replies.
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Your question is not stupid but it’s interesting. When someone comes online you can greet him by saying, ”Welcome” to him. But if you’re quite the other person certainly will check his IM list to see who is online or offline, if he/she finds you online, he can IM you.
There are away/busy messages in MSN messanger which are used to set the user status. For example if you see somebody’s buddy icon in your IM list turned brown from green and he is also online, you may notice a message after his nick/name showing at this time what his status is set. The status can be away/busy/not at my desk/on phone/out for lunch or even there are programs like Messanger Plus used for setting cutom status.
If you see the buddy icon in messanger window turned brwon, wait for the person to change in his status then IM him. If the buddy icon is green then try to contact him. I think there are no specific set of rules defined when/where/how message a person. It depends on situation i-e; how friendly two people are? What kind of relation they have?Hi there BFD, and welcome from me too. 🙂
It may also help for you to know that any message you get say “xxx is now online” (or offline) is system-generated, it is not directly from that person.
So when you have someone on your list, and probably they have you on theirs, then you each know when each other comes and goes. That’s the whole idea of IM programs.
BUT, almost everyone has more than just one person on their list, so just because your friend is online and doesn’t send you a message doesn’t mean anything – they could well be busy messaging with other friends (or for that matter they COULD even be away from their PC!).
So, any time u and her r both online you KNOW that she can see you’re online. Then (just like the telephone) IF either of you chooses to send a message, then a conversation starts.
(Perhaps a good opening line is “Hi there – r u free to chat?”!)
Good luck.
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