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August 30, 2005 at 12:28 am #18575bill1001Member
I’m writing a new book, which I thought would be of interest to BigBlueBall members. I figure that a lot of us who spend time instant messaging also have an interest in gadgets.
Boys and Their Toys: Understanding Men by Understanding Their Relationship with Their Gadgets explains how men behave in terms of the toys they like. For instance, that expensive car represents a need for independence; same or a GPS — with a global positioning system a man does not have to depend on anyone else for directions. Fancy cars, as well as expensive stereos, are ego-boosters — something else that’s an integral component to men’s psyche. Men believe that certain gadgets such as multi-function watches and high-tech car interiors, lure women in. (That may or may not be true, right?) Men often have short attention spans and need to fidget, and technology such helps with this.
Here are some questions. Feel free to answer those you want, and ignore the rest. (And if I’ve missed anything interesting, let me know that, too.) I’m interested in hearing from both men and women.
–Bill Adler
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http://www.adlerrobin.com* Why do you think that men like toys and gadgets? You can talk about boys and toys in general, or with regard to any specific kind of gadget.
* How are men and women different when it comes to gadgets and technology?
* Do toys serve as a substitute for any part of an actual relationship? In other words, do you feel that men pay more attention to their toys than to their girlfriends and spouses — and why?
* How would men (or any specific man you know) be if you took away certain gadgets, such as his PDA, cell phone, or wifi connection? Would he be okay or hell on earth?
* How do men behave when they’re away from their computer, email and Internet? (With this, as with all questions, feel free to comment about men in general, or any specific guy you know.)
* Why do men need new toys every so often?
* Do you feel that a man’s interest in gadgets –well, there’s no delicate way to put this– helps a relationship by enabling him to expend energy and interest in toys, rather than on other women?
* Do his toys help him retain a man’s boyhood? That is, do you think that a guy’s love of gadgets has something to do with his need to stay a boy at heart?
* Do you see men’s interest in certain toys –alarms, personal protectors, security devices, knifes, for example– as an extension of his nurturing, protective side? Or are these “security” devices saying, “My castle is fortified. I dare you to attack!”
* Do his toys help with a man’s mid-life crisis (whenever that may occur)?
* Do women resent a man’s spending time with gadgets?
And, finally:
* Can women use gadgets to improve or change men? Is it even worth trying?
August 30, 2005 at 2:59 am #123357AqeelParticipantFirst of all explain that…
-You’re discussing boys and their toys or gadgets and technology?
-Your study only focusing U.S.A or other parts of the world are included? Such as, under-devolped world where there is hardly any concept of gadgets and technology as toys of boys.. there are some different kind of toys.
– Do you want to bring a Global Concept of boys and their toys in your book:)August 31, 2005 at 5:01 pm #123359bill1001MemberI’m mostly talking about the developed world. The book’s an exploration of how modern men behave. Like most of my books Boys and Their Toys will have a humorous, light touch.
–Bill
August 31, 2005 at 5:50 pm #123356sarahtownyMemberHi, firstly welcome to BBB! And for a very interesting thread.
Well, I don’t live with a gadget man, both of us grew up in what might be perceived as quite an old fashioned upbringing.
For instance, I need a new mobile, mine lasts about an hour because the battery goes flat. But I won’t get the lastest model, for a start I think you are ripped off because they sell them at a hyped up price, because they know a certain part of the population, just have to have the latest model. I will buy a phone that simply does what I need it to do.
Yes, I am very lucky I live in a nice house and have what people call all the mod cons. But my husband and I buy when we need to i.e it’s broken down, not just to have the newest thing out on the market. For instance about a month ago, our tv broke down and we were told, that to fix it would cost more than it was worth. So we went looking for a new one. I did see his eyes light up at the massive plasma screen tv’s with stereo sound, but he said to me, yes they look nice but nah 3K for a tv you have got to be joking!
We both know people, we call them Keeping up with the Jones’s type, but really when you look at them, they can be rather shallow. And this throw away society we now live I find rather sad.
Sorry I have not answered all your questions individually but as you can tell from the above my man is certainly not mr gadget. However, I am sure other members will be around soon with their input. :0)
lol however, if you include a cricket bad or a rugby ball as a gadget then I have lots of answers! haha
August 31, 2005 at 10:57 pm #123358AqeelParticipantSorry, I can’t really answer your questions as I’m not a gadget man, I have interests mainly in reading/writing poetry, travelling, bikes, horse riding. The only gadget I have is my mobile phone and it’s not so latest with hi-tech features as I can’t afford to buy one as I have many other things to use my pocket money.
In technology; I love computers, internet and that’s all. I will prefer travelling to a hill station over buying an expensive cell phone/PDA.:) -
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