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August 4, 2005 at 2:18 am #19295TigerbladeParticipant
I originally wrote this for my site, but I figured I’d start a thread about it here to get a few more responses:
I think everyone needs at least one thing in their lives that has the ability to calm them down no matter what they’re going through at the moment. Something that when things get bad, you can think about and instantly feel better. Something that means enough to you and is calming enough to make their day that much better and bearable. It could be a person, a place, a thing, or an activity; it could be something you want or something you have, or something you’ve had in the past. It could be a friend, partner, or romantic interest. It could be something you’ve had for a while, or something you’re about to lose. (sometimes the things we fear to lose are the things we value the most…) It could be just about anything. The important part is that there is something, some thought, that has the power to calm you down in the middle of a hectic or bad day.
What’s yours?
August 4, 2005 at 3:39 am #127057colinMemberOne of mine is definitely running, it relieves a lot of stress and usually makes me real very calm and tired, especially after a hard workout. Another one is writing poetry. Every once in a while I just sit down and write a poem or two about what is going on in my life, and that usually makes me feel better. I also enjoy listening to music and trying to find a song that talks about what I am going through.
August 4, 2005 at 1:56 pm #127059neo_ny_23MemberSea beach and music for me.
August 4, 2005 at 2:57 pm #127062gossipingraeMemberMy bed makes me feel so much better, perhaps because I am always in it sleeping…and stuff. 😉
I always feel better when I write. Bust out the journal and start writing. It relieves so much stress. If I’m in a situation where I can’t write in my journal, I will write something down on a piece of paper to remind me to jot down all the details later. For instance, if I’m having a bad day at work, I’ll write down “work” on a scrap paper and write about it later.
August 4, 2005 at 5:01 pm #127052Jeff HesterKeymasterIm my case, writing poetry is my escape from the real world, even though I write about real world experiences at times. Whether it be about a lost love, lost family member, failure, victory, anger, joy, or even nature, I find writing about these things through poetry an easy way to vent. As long as there is paper and pencil/pen nearby, I’m set.
August 4, 2005 at 11:27 pm #127058colinMemberJust a thought, it seems like a lot of members on this forum write poetry. Do you think it has anything to do with the fact that we all are computer users? I don’t relaly see much of a connection, but hey…
August 5, 2005 at 3:12 am #127053TigerbladeParticipantcolin wrote:Just a thought, it seems like a lot of members on this forum write poetry. Do you think it has anything to do with the fact that we all are computer users? I don’t relaly see much of a connection, but hey…i dont imagine there’s a connection at all… i know plenty of people who are heavy computer users, and couldnt write poetry to save their life (i’m one of them). then there are people who write beautiful poetry, but put them in front of a computer and they’re lost.edit: Mr Oats mentioned the synapses in the brain perhaps being related… actually, it makes sense (not the synapses themselves, but the way the brain works…). Most people know that the brain is split into left and right hemispheres. The left hemisphere focuses on logic, on processing, on sciences. The right hemisphere is the creative artsy side. It follows logic that people who are strong with one side or the other will be… not lacking, but… less strong with the other side.
August 5, 2005 at 7:51 am #127065MrOatsMemberTigerblade wrote:i know plenty of people who are heavy computer users, and couldnt write poetry to save their life (i’m one of them). then there are people who write beautiful poetry, but put them in front of a computer and they’re lost.I am a pretty decent/pretty heavy computer user, I am horrible at poetry… Yet my sister Gina is pretty crappy computer user, can barely understand Windows without me helping her (which is sad) but has several awarded poems in poetry.com; not to mention straight A’s in all her creative writing classes. Strange, maybe it has to do with the Brain synapsyis’.
Her lateset poem, and my personal favorite is called “Shine”. You can look at it at Poetry.com. I can’t link to it, because it’s copywrited, so search for:
Garcia, Gina in the provided boxes***
Scroll down and look for Garcia, Gina Marie***
Then look for “Shine”***P.P.S. I find running (like Colin) very relaxing. Most of the times, many worries/fears I have had during the day tend to “dissapear” when I run. I also enjoy reading. When I start reading I can become engrossed and feel like there is nothing else in the world but me, and that book.
August 8, 2005 at 12:10 am #127064NessaParticipantThe way i get calm is simply by thinking of one person in my life. It’s a guy i’ve known for a very long time and means the world to me. I simply think of him and all my anger, pain, sadness, or any bad feelings can go away. This person can make me happy at any time…:)
Although i realize sometimes it’s not the best thing in the world to rely on one person for calming thoughts, but it’s the only thing that works for me currently…And i wouldn’t change it for the world.
August 8, 2005 at 10:15 pm #127055RabidKittenParticipantIn all honesty, if I get upset enough, nothing can calm me down. *shrug* Just how I am. And when my head starts spinning in circles, and I get pent up enough, about the only thing that can do it for me is a good, clean, healthy breakdown follows by 12 hours of sleep and a cold washcloth to sooth the puffiness of the eyes *snickers*. I got that ruitine down pat *wink* And after that, I’m still an apathetic mass of “piss off” for a day or so…then it starts over again, heheh. It’s the Sami Cycle of Doom *cue lightening, thunder and the chimes* Meh *shrug, brushes it off*
For little frets, sometimes if I turn on my music really really loud and prance around and scream it, I can feel better, heheheh. Anything to burn energy so I’m too tired to be upset. The punchingbag in the garage gets a lot of play too *wink*
Anxiousness, I end up cleaning. My roomate says that it’s a little scary because I don’t speak to anyone, and if I do it’s in broken, really soft, quick sentances, heheh. They’ve actually had to have me stop because they said it was creepy and near manic. *shrug* Some people smoke, some drink, some sleep, I clean *cackles*.
Heheh, I know myself well enough that I know how to counter act different levels of being upset *wink* But calming in general….meh, lately yoga seems to do that pretty well. Something about twisting around in weird positions that occupies all of your attention, heheh.
August 9, 2005 at 12:34 am #127060SpikeMemberIf something is agitiating me, some really good, loud tunes will clear it up, I dunno if it’s just me or not, but I kind of get lost in the music, it makes me forget whatever I was thinking about before. Depends on the music, too, it will usually match my mood. Alternative if I’m angry, or Claasic Rock if I’m sad or bored, techno if I’m hyped up or need a little energy boost. I love my music, I don’t know what I’d do without it.
August 9, 2005 at 4:26 am #127054TigerbladeParticipantInteresting responses… keep them coming. Personally, I have a few things that calm me down when I get stressed out or pissed off. there’s always my music, cranking The Crystal Method always helps drain some energy. I’m not really into sports, but frisbee is a great way to burn energy and relax (basically any decent amount of physical exertion helps, i just prefer it to be frisbee-esque). Then there’s usually a girl (sadly, not a girlfriend at the moment) that I can think of that will calm me down… just the thought of that person can relax me, seeing them in my mind.
like sami said, it can be one, or multiples, or all, depending on the situation at hand…
August 9, 2005 at 4:46 am #127056HasanMemberWhen I’m not ok; I think I’m ok and I feel ok.
How simple 🙂
August 9, 2005 at 6:04 pm #127063AqeelParticipantHasan wrote:When I’m not ok; I think I’m ok and I feel ok.How simple 🙂
Very simple and nice:) But yar (friend); whenever sadness prevails over me, I walk miles in the desert, specialy in the evenings and mornings, I sit alone on the large sand-dunes in the moon nights, and when I want to weep I go to the carpet lay on my chest and shed tears, and mostly fell sleep during weeping.August 10, 2005 at 11:57 am #127061sarahtownyMemberI suppose it depends on how bad I feel, but going for a long drive often sorts me out. I put the cd on, if I am cross I put on something loud (I hate the world type stuff), if I am sad or upset about something the soppy stuff goes on.
Othertimes, I might write about how I feel, or talk to a close friend.
If all else fails I go to my bed, curl up have a good old cry and hope I feel better the next day.
But at the end of the day, I always think there is always someone worse off than me and try to do this …… 🙂
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