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has anyone ever heard of this happening or am i just being too stupid and trusting of my boyfriend. numerous times he has appeared to be in a chat room, sometimes adult chat with his webcam on. When i confront him he denies it totally. I want to trust him but when your eyes see something conflicting it is very difficult. So i guess my question is has anyone ever known yahoo to randomly put a yahoo id into a chat room?
Yahoo will not randomly put an ID into a chatroom. It is most likely that your bf is in fact in those rooms. Perhaps not at that precise moment but either way if his ID is in there, it can only be two reasons 1) He entered the room himself or 2) Someone has his ID.
thanks MiamiGuy…..yeah as i suspected, but he is so adiment about yahoo doing weird stuff and glitches in the system, he almost had ME believing, he also mistakenly im’d me on one of his alias names and when i im’d him back knowing it was him because of the similarity of the name, he told me that he had tried to just change his name/profile, and it let him send one IM then said error name already used. When i pulled up the “new” alias profile it said member since…and the exact date he was a member then it said profile updated back almost 3 months ago. When i confronted him about this discrepency of the date he also says its not him and the name belongs to someone else. Funny thing is when he is online then the emoticon in the alias profile is lit, and simutaneously when he goes offline so does the emoticon of the alias. guess he is making a game out of my stupidity.
You’re not stupid, your’e on to him and he knows it and is continuing to lie. Yahoo would not have let him IM once and say the name is taken. Sorry.
yeah your right sunflower, i even said that to him, guess he is just lying hard to believe that he has kept me strung along for almost a yr., i just wish there were someway to spy or catch him for sure. i think thats what i need so i can move on.
i just wanted to believe him so much that i lost all my common sense and insted i should have just trusted my instincts
I know.. been there done that. If you think he is cheating….you can make a new name and IM him. See if he plays. Its a little devious but…if you really want to catch him in the act this might work. Good luck.
yeah i already did that but he knows im on to him so what he does is he wont talk unless i show him my webcam and if i say i dont have one then he just wont chat with me. that way he has himself protected i guess. Just wonder why he is going to all this trouble, i mean if he wants that type of thing (chat webcam sex only) then fine, nothing wrong with that but why pretend he wants me ?any idea about how that buddy spy works or if it could help in this situation. Unfortunately im still in love with him and i think until i have solid proof of his indescretion then im going to cling and hang on. Its so painful
Do you have a friend (that he doesn’t know) and you can trust that has a webcam that might help you out ?
bbe7994 wrote:yeah i already did that but he knows im on to him so what he does is he wont talk unless i show him my webcam and if i say i dont have one then he just wont chat with me. that way he has himself protected i guess. Just wonder why he is going to all this trouble, i mean if he wants that type of thing (chat webcam sex only) then fine, nothing wrong with that but why pretend he wants me ?any idea about how that buddy spy works or if it could help in this situation. Unfortunately im still in love with him and i think until i have solid proof of his indescretion then im going to cling and hang on. Its so painfulBuddy spy will tell you the following: If he is online, what chat he is in, or if he is on webcam.
What it wont tell you: Any pms he has open, if he is viewing webcams, etc.
Well, you do have proof he is lying. Is that enough? Only you can decide that. To me it would be enough. Or, get a friend with a cam, obviously someone he doesnt know. Although, it might not be worth the trouble. If you need someone with a cam.. IM me. I have one.;)
regarding buddy spy, can’t i just log into a chat room and click on go to chat user to see if he is in a chat room? That is something i can do without buddy spy is that correct??
Yup.
But you see Buddy Spy doesn’t really apply to this situation at least to me.
What you’re going to have to do is a lot more in depth. You’re going to have to be clever to catch him doing something he says he doesn’t.
Can I ask something? Is this an online relationship or a real life one?
EliteNick wrote:Yup.But you see Buddy Spy doesn’t really apply to this situation at least to me.
What you’re going to have to do is a lot more in depth. You’re going to have to be clever to catch him doing something he says he doesn’t.
Can I ask something? Is this an online relationship or a real life one?
Good question, and I feel I have to weigh in here too….regardless of the “kind” of relationship…you need to do what is best for you. Relationships, good, true ones, are not supposed to be THIS painful. Sometimes it is better to be in no relationship at all than in one that makes you unhappy or makes you doubt yourself or the other person. Personally, this guy does not sound worth your time or effort. (I know that is difficult to see because you have already invested so much time and emotion into the relationship.).
But that’s really more of an answer for “off topic” as far as Yahoo!….BOY did I HATE it when some one tried to “make” me turn on my webcam or they would not talk to me….that’s something else….
He says he has to see your cam…you can always turn it on…just show your trash bin or something that is totally generic….or have some one make a drawing and be “silly” and write “Hee hee hee. This is what I look like.” Tease him and flirt with him and see if he takes the bait. That is IF you feel the need to put THAT much effort into something like this.
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