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May 14, 2004 at 7:15 pm #10094Someguy03Member
Yes, I’m back again, but you guys haven’t failed me once yet, so I’m going to ask for more help, for the 3rd time =)
My friends Gf, Sophia, wont let me meet her friend, Jessica. Everytime I try to talk to her in person Sophia tells Jessica some excuse to do something else. And whenever I talk to her about it, she is like “You don’t know her kyle, even if you talked to her on AIM.” So I’m like “And ben knows her?” (my friend who likes the girl I wan’t to meet) And she was like “Ya, cuz they met through me…”
And Sophia is always trying to get ben to hug her, hang out with her, etc, (he’s too scared to do anything) like shes trying to hook them up. (Me and some other friends don’t think Jessica likes Ben) Whenever Sophia trys to get Ben to do something with Jessica, Sophia looks at me like “Thats right, shes IS to start liking ben, and you can’t do anything about it while I’m around.”
So its kind of like Sophia doesn’t want me hanging out with her friend (I think Sophia hates me) so shes trying to keep me from talking to Jessica while she attempts to hook her up with my friend, although she doesn’t say that flat out.
Anyone got any advice, on what I should say to Sophia, so she will let me hang out with her friend? Or so that she will lay off? Should I tell Jessica what shes doing?
May 14, 2004 at 8:28 pm #79640.ParticipantAsk her out!
June 3, 2004 at 12:38 am #79644El DiabloMemberQuote:quote:Originally posted by WhiteMateriaAsk her out!
someguy03 who cares what Sofia thinks, just go after Jessica.
October 11, 2005 at 2:56 am #79647cutiebcrazyMemberWOW!! I really just have to say this… I believe your “friend” likes you… The one that WONT let you get near her friend. She has an issue with control. But I do believe she may also like you?? Has that thought ever crossed your mind? The reason I say this is because she is busy trying to push someone else on this girl. Someone she may know is NOT going to make a move.. while she is waiting for you to wake up and smell the control she is dangling right in your face!!! HELLLLLOOOO!! Can’t you see, what this women, she been doin’ to me…. LOL.
October 11, 2005 at 5:07 am #79641TigerbladeParticipantHmm… interesting conundrum you’ve got here. I’d say, don’t necessarily tell Jessica what Sofia is doing… you don’t want to be seen as a tattle-tale. However, it does seem as though this Sofia is overstepping her bounds as a friend by quite a bit. She has no right to prevent you from seeing or talking to Jessica. If Jessica decides she doesnt want to see you, talk to you, date you, whatever, then that’s her decision and no one else’s. I’d suggest, as difficult as it might be, tell that to Sofia. Easier said than done, of course, as is everything in this sort of thing. But really, she has no rights to do what she’s doing. If she likes you and is trying to hint at that, then this is no way to do that.
Besides telling Sofia it’s none of her business (besides, how else are you supposed to get to know someone in real life if you cant see them in real life?), try getting Jessica to meet you somewhere without letting Sofia in on it… try to keep her out of the loop when you can, until she realizes she can’t control someone else’s life.
Best of luck, man.
October 11, 2005 at 7:07 am #79645MrOatsMemberTiger is right, you really should tell Sofia that she has no right to be overly-controlling like that. Try asking her why she is so up tight about it, and that you really want to meet/hang out/date Jessica. Yes, it will be hard. But once you tell her that, everything should be sorted out (I hope).
October 11, 2005 at 2:29 pm #79638OreoMemberJust so I know I have the facts straight…Sophia is dating your friend and Ben is another friend. Sophia is trying to set Ben up with Jessica…neither one has yet to make a move on the other (except when prodded by Sophia). You like Jessica and chat with her on AIM. Sophia says you do not know her because you only chat with her. Hmmm…this is what I would do, let a few hints out while chatting with Jessica that you might want to do something with her, like go to a movie or just hang out somewhere. Find out what she might like to do, whether it is just hopping on a bike (find out if she has a bike and enjoys riding…or if she likes the leaves in Autumn) and going to the park or going to a movie, shopping, etc… If she seems interested, suggest something like “What are you up to this weekend? Maybe we could go go for ride or something?” Test the waters, you have nothing to lose, Sophia does NOT have rights to control Jessica, you OR Ben. Are you so sure that Ben likes Jessica? OR does he like the fact that some one is trying to set him up with a girl? As long as it does not damage your friendship with Ben…go for it! 🙂
October 11, 2005 at 7:32 pm #79637Jeff HesterKeymasterSomeguy03 wrote:So I’m like “And ben knows her?” (my friend who likes the girl I want to meet)
With your friend liking her, I think you should think before doing anything with this girl. When I say think, I mean think of your friendship with Ben and how going for the girl he likes might affect that friendship. This of course is if you are someone that cares too much.As far as my friends go, we say “let the best man” win, and girls reading this, before you jump on me, NO I am not saying that girls are some piece of meat prize that you can win. With that said, if I were you (Emphasis on I) I’d go for her. If your friend is not willing to act then that is his mistake and I’ve been on Ben’s side so I know what I’m talking about. Many occassions where I should have taken action have come across but shyness, fear of rejection or whatever you want to call it prevented me from doing so. I would go for her, but first make sure your friend won’t go postal and push you off a bridge over it.
EDIT: It has come to my attention your post is quite old. Thank you for being observative Oreo! heh.
October 11, 2005 at 9:19 pm #79639OreoMemberHey! I just noticed the DATE of the original message! This is old news is it not??
October 11, 2005 at 9:52 pm #79642TigerbladeParticipantheh, Oreo you’re right. i never checked the date of Kyle’s post, i just saw the topic in “New Posts” (since cutiebcrazy replied to it) and went on. weird.
I guess there’s no need to continue this one… out of curiosity, if this is old news, how did this turn out, kyle?
October 11, 2005 at 9:58 pm #79646DragonSlayerzMemberok six words dump sophia and go after jessica
October 12, 2005 at 12:48 am #79648cutiebcrazyMemberI do apologize guys, I am new to this. I guess I should be looking at the dates?:confused: 😀
October 12, 2005 at 3:23 am #79643TigerbladeParticipantno worries cutiebcrazy, it happens to the best of us. none of the rest of us bothered to check the date at first either…
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