December 23, 2009 at 9:53 pm #31701
This might be the wrong place to even mention this, but I wonder what everyones feelings are about this.
I, for example would not even dream of twittering or facebook. I look at those that do with pity really, and yes I will get stoned for that …
Let me set my stall. When I joined bbb, to be honest it was cough cough quite a few years back, the internet was newish when it came to socialising with people, it was new and exciting and I could talk to someone the other side of the world, how cool was that! I even once set up a blog about me, what I was up to and when twitter set up I was actually one of its first users.
Due to work and real life taking over I had less and less time to be about. But since then social networking has grown and grown.
I was at a function a while back and a woman walked up to my boss, and was really upset with him, the reason? He did not add her to facebook. I had to walk away as I was giggling but also though has the world gone crazy? Also recently I went to the vets of all places and knew the receptionist and told her a friend of friend was having a a baby she said oh I know, I saw her scan pictures on facebook, wt?
Driving to work it is not unusual to hear on the radio station so and so twittered this or that.
I liked the whole idea intially now, if you have these accounts you can see what everyone is doing 24/7 just not my thing.
What you had or did today, you know I really don't care.December 23, 2009 at 11:51 pm #176446PolarBearNPRParticipant
Sarah – I don't think it's the social networking that's gone too far, but rather social networkers who allow themselves to be sucked into that world to the exclusion of reality. AND… those who share too much information… that's always been an issue in this sometimes anonymous-feeling venue. Or those that take it too personally when they read something or feel excluded or whatever. Bottom line here is that if you wouldn't do or say it in public, don't do or say it on fb! Agreed – it is cool to talk with someone across the globe, but those under your roof deserve interaction even more so.
“Everything in moderation” – always the best guideline.
And *heh* just today I searched to see if you were on fb… guess not 🙁December 24, 2009 at 2:32 am #176447PhilipModerator
I agree with Heather, Sarah. I'm using Twitter and Facebook myself but not to such an extent that I'm doing it every hour on the hour. It's important to remember (and a lot of users don't!) that one is responsible for what has been posted…so don't talk bad about your boss and stuff like that.
And thanks to Facebook I recently reconnected with an old college friend from my Arizona days…'nuff said 🙂December 26, 2009 at 6:03 pm #176430
I agree with you, Sarah, about not caring if someone fed the cat or washed their clothes today. I typically don't follow those people on Facebook or Twitter.
But I don't blame social media for that misuse of the tool. It's a part of people's exploration of the medium. As people develop an understanding of what it can (and cannot) do for them, they will adapt accordingly.
Facebook is great for keeping up with friends. I don't add people that I don't already know.
I use Twitter more for keeping up with trends in specific areas that I'm interested in: hiking, knowledge management, social media, WordPress and instant messaging. The people I follow have interesting things to say in at least one of those areas.
My own “tweets” are usually promotional in some way, although I do also use a number of apps that integrate with Twitter and automatically send updates (i.e. FourSquare). But I don't tweet the minutiae of my day nor do I reveal personal information about my life and relationships. The people who follow me on Twitter are a broader group that goes beyond just my friends, and I act accordingly.
The “oversharing” by some is something that I believe will change over time. People will adapt and find a way of using these tools that makes sense for them. The process of exploration, is to me, exciting as that is where innovative ideas can often spring up.
Great discussion… thanks for starting the topic, Sarah!December 27, 2009 at 6:54 pm #176437TigerbladeParticipant
I'm with Jeff on this. I couldn't care less what kind of sandwich someone had for lunch today, but I use Twitter to follow trends in web development, social media (is using social media to track social media going to cause a universe implosion?), etc. It's also a great place for amateur comedians to share material without having to be actual comedians.
I use Facebook less and less, but it really is a good way to keep up with friends, plan events, etc, especially if you don't see each other all the time already. I still keep in touch with a lot of people I went to school with but don't have enough to say to merit a long phone call. A quick post on their Facebook wall is sufficient.December 28, 2009 at 11:38 am #176438
Okay. I'm going to say it, guys. I'm going to say it. Okay.
Work + Facebook = BAD IDEA
Maybe it's just because it's me, and those of you who have me on facebook, or, in the past the now essentially useless null and void myspace, know very well that my updates are random. Often spackled together with a smattering of cursing, a freckling of obscenity and on a really good day, some kind of mildly offensive suggestions as to what one could do with a dead fish named Roger, a mallet and their mother in law.
It's become a rather favorite with my friends to qualify this with a story:
Once upon a time, RK had a camera. And one eventful night, found a shop full of little figurines in lewd sexual poses. Well, she took a picture of these figures, took it home, uploaded it on Facebook and tagged a bunch of her friends in it. Because that's what friends do. And I am a good friend.
Now, imagine my curiosity when my phone blew up at 7 am with a bunch of ‘WTF's and all my friends untagged themselves.
No, they were not offended.
In fact, they thought it was hilarious. Like I knew they would. Because we're friends. And who doesn't like to see little hand painted asian people in poses that we've only see in pornographic movies with the names of our friends and their spouses on them? It was much like a more awesome version of those stupid ‘most funny, most creative, most likely to get hit by a train' pictures that people get tagged on.
But no. They were flipping out because they had just friended a bunch of mothers, fathers, in laws and co-workers and did not want them to realize just how funny and perverse their friends/loved ones/coworkers really are.
See, I sometimes forget that people actually give a damn about silly things like ‘reputation' and like to hide who they are from the people they work with or go to church with.
I forget exactly where I was going with this, but it probably has something to do with the fact that people should just not friend up with people that they're casually acquainted with, work with in ANY professional manner or generally hiding who they really are from (IE: family), or have a second account. I don't care.
That's my biggest gripe, really. People who update about stupid stuff generally just irritate me just enough to put them in the NO jar and never speak of it again. Overly preachy people. Overly emo people. Whatever. But some people just lead boring lives. Slice of life, people. Slice of life. Not everyone can be a cowboy, someone has to be the poor kid who scoops horse crap for a living.
Twitter just reminds me of people like this. And that effin' SCARES me. Right now, I'm eating cereal. I love cereal. I stubbed my toe. LOL, anyone else stub their toe? JK, I love the attention. OMG. Walking my dog. Thinking about going home, right now, and stopping walking my dog, right now.
… … … … *braindead*
Make. It. Stop.
One of the most hilarious things I witnessed a couple years ago: Someone was hitting on my sister and I (because boys are like that *eyeroll*) and actually asked for …
A) Our numbers
B) Our email
C) Our myspaces
Yes. If you guessed C, you got it. I literally laughed so hard at him that I think it hurt his feelings.
Social networking is weird.December 28, 2009 at 2:17 pm #176449Doris KenneyParticipant
RabidKitten – your FB posts make my day! Keep 'em coming or I will spiral into a deep dark pit of something I can't mention.
I'm of the opinion if you are easily offended by what people post (wherever it may be), don't read it. It's that simple. And while I do have work friends on my FB I either 1) know they have humor like mine or 2) don't really care if they get offended at what they see. They aren't obligated to look at it.
I don't like seeing what someone had for dinner or where they went shopping, etc. And I really don't give a crap about what they just did in some game (I'm forced to hide those types of things immediately). I tend to find FB a more random venting amusing kind of fun – where Twitter is indeed a place where I keep up with certain topics like malware.
It all has a time and a place for whomever decides to use it. It goes in cycles and it changes as the novelty of any given site wears off.December 29, 2009 at 8:42 am #176439
Doris. So much love for you right now, Lady.
That's the attitude I have as well. My mama and all my siblings are on my facebook. And my boyfriend's family. If they didn't know I was weird before, they do now. Screw it. I'm not one for pretenses.
Though I know that a good number of ‘professional' people struggle with facebook and the like. I have a very good friend who just passed the bar (YAY) and she's asked us not to tag pictures of her because it's hard to take your lawyer seriously when you've seen pictures of her LARPing as a young man in the 1700s.
I have some serious trouble getting ‘into' Twitter. I don't know why or when or how but I really…yeah. Well come on, most of you see the kind of stuff I comment about and the like! And while I have found a few interesting people to read on twitter, it's all just too scattered and not a cohesive enough base for me to thrive. *shrugs* Meh.December 29, 2009 at 7:33 pm #176441
Ohh nice lots of responses, nice to know I have not lost my touch.:p Great to see you Miss Kitten, been a while … (loved the youtube of the twitter girl, had me in stiches!)
Sorry, I could not log in earlier, I was either cooking dinner, taking the kids out, doing my hair, shopping and all without telling anyone on a social website, eek I have now :0)
The only twitter account my husband checks is Mr Kutcher, and that only because he is hoping to get another shot of Demi's botty! Men heyDecember 29, 2009 at 9:08 pm #176435DavidParticipant
So everyone is saying the same thing… social networking is what you make of it. Is that really a surprise? Some people like to share everything, but isn't that like the people who just won't shut up IRL? While there are a whole ton of idiots on Twitter, there are also a whole ton of idiots on Facebook, and in life. Everyone has a voice now, and most people aren't worth listening to.December 30, 2009 at 10:27 am #176440
I would like to take this opportunity to inform you that you are so like rain on your wedding day. Or perhaps a free ride, when I've already paid. Dare I even say a traffic jam when I'm already late? Yes, I dare. Mr. Amenta, you are 10,000 spoons, when all I really need is a knife.
Director of Things Decidedly not Ironic, Per Say, but That Are Still Kind of a Downer
p.p. R.KittenDecember 30, 2009 at 3:57 pm #176431
Sarah, you may have missed this, but I think you'll appreciate it.December 30, 2009 at 4:02 pm #176445YahooliganMember
As a counterpoint to Jeff's video, which I admit is funny, there is this great video that does a good job of answering the question: “What is Twitter?”
[yt]ddO9idmax0o[/yt]December 30, 2009 at 5:52 pm #176443Yahooligan;245503 wrote:As a counterpoint to Jeff's video, which I admit is funny, there is this great video that does a good job of answering the question: “What is Twitter?”
haha nice once Yahooligan …
But talk about contradicting itself…
Initially it says ‘friends and family, would not want to know if you were having a coffee'.
At the end it says, ‘find out what your friends are doing in twitter'.Or rather nothing you would annoy your RL friends with 😉
Although my personal fave was “she recently had taken an interest in Van Halen”:D
Note to Jeff, could not read yours as it would not play. :crying:
And Dave, never change, the minute Dave gets a sense of humour, I tell you the earth will stop turning or freeze over, not sure but it will be something, very dramatic. I can see the next Hollywood blockbuster!
Ps Have a great 2010 everyone xDecember 30, 2009 at 6:15 pm #176432
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