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I was sent this article and it is from a housekeeping magazine from 1955. My how things have changed ….
- Have dinner ready. Plan ahead, even the night before. To have a delicious meal ready, on time for his return. This is way of letting him know you are thinking about him and concerned about his needs. Most men are hungry when they get home and the prospect of a good meal (especially his favourite dish) is part of the welcome home needed.Prepare yourself. Take 15 minutes to rest so you’ll be refreshed when he arrives. Touch up your make-up. Put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh-looking. He has just been with a lot of work weary people.
- Be a little gay and a little more interesting for him. His boring day may need a lift and one of your duties is to provide it.
- Clear away clutter. Make a last trip around the main part of the house just before your husband arrives.
- Gather up school books, toys papers etc, and run the duster over the tables.
- On the cooler days of the year you should prepare a fire for him to unwind by. Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order, and it will give him a lift to. After all, catering for all his comfort will provide you with immense personal satisfaction.
- Prepare the children, take a moment to clean the children’s hands and faces (if they are small)comb their hair and if necessary change their clothes. They are little treasures and he would like to see them playing the part. Minimise the noise. At the time of his arrival minimise all noise turn off the washer, dryer or vacuum. Try to encourage the children to be quiet.
- Be happy to see him.
- Greet him with a warm smile and show sincerity in your desire to please him.
- Listen to him. You may have a dozen things you might want to say to hi, but at the moment of his arrival is not the time – remember his topics of conversation are more important than yours.
- Make the evening his. Never complain if he gets home late or goes out to dinner, or other places of entertainment without you. Instead, try to understand his world of strain and pressure and his real need to be home to relax.
- Your goal: Your home is a place of peace and tranquillity a place where your husband can renew himself in body and spirit.
- Don’t greet him with complaints and problems.
Although the methods of welcoming home your spouse (this is a two-way street, ya know) have changed, the underlying premise – that home is a restful haven – is still the same. But the day I wear high heels in the kitchen . . . well, that’s long gone 😉
I’ve seen this a few times before….I used to use it with students to compare the roles of women in the 50s and today….also I would compare it to what women were expected to do in ancient Sparta and what became of their status in more “civilized” times. I had a LOT of unhappy girls in class and a LOT of boys thinking that sounded pretty good… BLEH! 🙂
Quote:After all, catering for all his comfort will provide you with immense personal satisfaction.really… that’s amazing. i’ve never heard anyone claim that.
but it must be true!
This one is my favorite…
sarahtowny;206872 wrote:…remember his topics of conversation are more important than yours.Yeah, okay!
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After all, catering for all his comfort will provide you with immense personal satisfaction.
really… that’s amazing. i’ve never heard anyone claim that.but it must be true!
Ahhhh – and it is. However guys, remember, this is a two-way street and there is good advice embedded in this piece for you, too. The bottom line here is care about each other more than you do yourself; do things for each other without expecting something in return; and remembering the early days of your relationship – the anticipation, the excitement, it’s still there, just deep down.
I dont think that today’s wife care for all this… Women today just know to yell for ‘equal rights’ they doesnt care for their duties.
Sorry:) , if some body is hurt, these are my personal views. However the article is excellent, only a ‘dream wife’ can do that, the ideal oneQuote:– remember his topics of conversation are more important than yours.Ouch! I’m all for catering to my man when I become a wife, but that is just… :sick:
The “catering” should go both ways.
aqeel wrote:I dont think that today’s wife care for all this… Women today just know to yell for ‘equal rights’ they doesnt care for their duties.I know this is your personal view, but don’t you think it is rather harsh? Why should women have duties to be a doormat? I am a little disheartened to hear that you’d be content with a “happy wife,” meaning one who doesn’t engage in any real conversation or challenge what’s bothering her. Bleh.
Dr Kimble;206939 wrote:I know this is your personal view, but don’t you think it is rather harsh? Why should women have duties to be a doormat? I am a little disheartened to hear that you’d be content with a “happy wife,” meaning one who doesn’t engage in any real conversation or challenge what’s bothering her. Bleh.There are women today who care for all these good things but I’m talking about majority and the majority today isn’t feminine they are going to be more manly then ever. Personlly my views about women are not that they have to perform ‘doormat’ like duties. I believe in their true respect, women is a mother, a daughter, sister and a wife… a soul mate. Our national poet Allama Iqbal said in a couplet, ‘wajood-e-zan say he hay tasweere kainaat main rang (Urdu)’ means its only the women that because of her this universe is beautiful and coloured’.
But as I said women today (the majority) isn’t that feminine, they are neglatacting their real duties and asking for rights. The balance of duties and rights isn’t right. Men (the majority) is in piteous situation. :crying:
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