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June 25, 2004 at 3:54 am #3260sugar_baby724Member
I just recently went to a Summer Music Camp..which is a combination of band and choir. I went with a friend for 6 days and it was really fun. We didn’t know anyone else there so we just hung out together. This year was the first year we had different classes and were in different choirs than each other so I was feeling a bit uncertain about staying…I don’t know why though. Well anyways…my friend is really pretty and everyone likes her. I’m pretty also but I guess it’s just not enough. At camp, there was a guy we knew from the last 2 years at camp. I really like him and so does she. He added us to his MSN messenger and I was talking to him the night after we got home from camp. We talked for about 2 hours and that was making me feel really good. Then he decides to tell me that he wants to go out with……my friend. My heart totally fell apart at that moment and I didn’t know what to do. He just kept talking about how much he likes her and wants to be with her….ect. He is the only one I can talk to about anything in the world and once I learned that he liked her I freaked. I don’t know what to do anymore….it just ticks me off because she can get any guy she wants and I am not that lucky. He is the only guy that I like and trust but now I am totally lost. He knows that I like him because I have “gave hints” and flat out told him that I liked him…for more than a friend. I guess he just doesn’t want to listen. Well….I hope I made it worth your while to read this…if there is any advice you could give me I would be greatful. Thanx for your time.
June 25, 2004 at 4:56 am #43019TigerbladeParticipantmy advice is… move on. life goes on, this too shall pass. especially if you’re just 14 years old – you have plenty of time to find someone, this is definitely not the person you’ll be spending your life with. move on, find someone better, and prove to him and to yourself that you dont need him to be happy. otherwise, forget about the whole thing, concentrate on things that are more important – other friends, family, activities, whatever makes you happy, other than trying to impress the opposite sex. i’m not saying give up entirely on trying to meet guys, just dont make it the focus of your life
edit… I was gonna say that this should really be in the Random Ramblings section, if one of you mods agree you know what to do
June 25, 2004 at 8:59 am #43018Someguy03MemberWhy should it be in the Random Ramblings section? Notice the title of the forum category: Food, Romance & Other Essential Distractions.
And if you don’t move on, You can always wait. If he breaks up with her, and your still there waiting for him, something could happen. But if you don’t want to wait, it would be good to take TigerBlades suggestion.
But if you want to try and steal him back or something, don’t insult her or bring up anything bad about her when talking to him, It only gets the guy mad (I know). Just be yourself and respect who he likes if you want to show him that your a good choice for a GF.
June 25, 2004 at 5:01 pm #43023neo_ny_23Memberwell sugarbaby, the most important thing is that feelings or relationships built on the basis of looks are not enough. the heart is more important. well, if he likes your friend then you cant do any thing untill you get some one who realy adores you on basis of what you realy are not just what you lack or something. so move ahead.. even if she leaves the guy, I presume if the guy comes to u, he will still be searching “her” in u. so be urself, be bold n brave, n move on.
good luckJune 25, 2004 at 5:23 pm #43016OreoMemberI’ve been in that situation too many times to count! You have your whole life ahead of you…full of loves and heartbreaks and eventually you will find “the one.” The one things I can tell you for certain, is there are certainly other guys out there that you will like and you may even like better than this one. One thing I used to do when I was younger was shut out all of the other guys if I liked just one and I missed the clues that there were some other REALLY nice (not to mention cute!) guys who really liked me. Try to remember not to shut out all of the other guys…there will be others out there that you can trust. Also, if this guy is someone that you really feel you can talk to…why shouldn’t you remain friends?? It might be too hard…and that’s totally understandable, but if you think you can still hang with him and be friends…who knows…maybe YEARS from now you’ll have an even better relationship or he can give you guy advice when you need it. It might feel like it right now, but this is not the end of your world. Always remember to learn something from everything that happens to you (good or bad) that’s the best way to deal with any situation. 🙂
June 26, 2004 at 1:39 am #43020TigerbladeParticipanteach time i’ve gotten into a relationship, it always seems like there’s a possibility that “she’s the one”… and then I realize that i’m way too young to consider settling down just yet. i’m still in school, I have so much more to concentrate on than keeping someone else happy all the time. that’s not to say that I dont want a gf, but its not a driving force in my life. just focus on what else might be important in your life, keep an open mind, and an open heart. I completely agree with neo_ny_23, yes looks are important to a degree, but if you dont get along with the person then its over before it starts.
oh, side note to someguy03 – it was originally in the MSN forum, obviously it got moved… and I meant to say the Off -Topic section, not Random Ramblings
June 26, 2004 at 2:10 am #43024DeadMan25Memberas The old saying goes “time heals all wounds” well for the most part anyway
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June 26, 2004 at 5:18 am #43022sugar_baby724MemberThank you all for the advice….I dont know how to move on and believe me there is no one else. I do focus on other things….everyone says that once you get to high school you usually fade away from your friends and I’m not in highschool at the moment and I feel that its already happening. My life is going crazy and I dont know what to do about it. You people are really helping me out a lot and it makes me feel better when I see that people reply to what I have to say but I still dont know what to do. About a month ago I was dating a guy that I really liked but we live 20 min away from each other. He would call me sometimes and no one would talk. We would just sit there silently on the phone for about an hour each time. I am not much of a talker on the phone but it just felt good to know that he was on the other end. I wasn’t to fond of the relationship because I never got to see him and we never really talked on the phone. I didnt know what to do, so one time on the phone I worked up the guts to tell him that I couldnt handle it anymore and I had to break up with him. I was shaking so bad and I had tears in my eyes. He is really awesome and I love him to death and I felt horrible because of what I did to him and he didnt even deserve it. He has a girlfriend now and we never talk anymore. I think my life is just falling apart. Sorry this was a lil long. Hope your entertained by my life stories. Thanx for your time.
June 26, 2004 at 6:40 am #43021TigerbladeParticipantQuote:quote:I dont know how to move on and believe me there is no one elseyes there is. you may not know who they are yet, and they may not know who you are yet. but there is someone else. there is always someone and something else in life beyond what we have going on right now. yeah its true that once you get to high school you do tend to fall away from people you dont talk to much right now anyway, but its also true that you’ll probably get closer to your real friends. I know its easier said than done, but you have to relax and see the bigger picture, the longer term. its always rough breaking up with someone, but this happens. everyone knows this, its a risk we take getting into relationships.
just remember these four simple words: “this too shall pass.”
June 29, 2004 at 4:54 am #43026CoxsackieVirusMemberIf your that devoted, then you would probibally trust and like another guy. Come on, you dont really think this is it, your soulmate? The person you are going to spend the rest of your life with?
June 29, 2004 at 10:38 pm #43017OreoMemberI know what it’s like to have your friends fade away somewhat before high school…it happened to me in Junior High…but you know what?? They were not the right people for me…just because I was friends with most of them from elementary school didn’t mean we had to stay friends. My friends and I went in separate directions, many of them ended up on the wrong side of the law, with drugs…etc… they weren’t right for me. The one I was closest to from elementary school and I became friends again towards the end of high school and I stood up in her wedding and we’re still friends to this day. I am telling you all of this because just because things are difficult now, does not mean they won’t get better. As the old saying goes “It’s darkest before the dawn.” Just when you’ve hit rock bottom, there’s always something there to remind you that things will turn around. Like TB wrote, your true friends are always there for you, and you’ll know who they are more certainly as you start to get older and wiser. 🙂 Stay postive and just enjoy your summer for YOU and don’t worry about what some one else might be thinking or doing.
June 29, 2004 at 11:10 pm #43025AragornsQueen01ParticipantI used to think that this guy I met at camp was my true love I used to think about him all the time and tell people how I was going to marry him and everything. Now when I think about that I laugh. That wasn’t vary long ago either. lol
July 15, 2004 at 5:05 am #43027Sonic213MemberThis happened 2 me. Just move on, but ima give you two quotes that will go hand-in-hand with each other. The first is…”To the world, you may be one person, but to one person you might be the world.” The second is…”There are pleanty of other fish in the sea.”…There is probablly some one else that you know that you might like just as much, and he likes you too. Go for him. Everything happens for a reason.
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