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July 5, 2007 at 3:14 am #27271PhilipModerator
Just to let you guys know that I’ll be gone for a while, as my dad suffered a severe stroke last evening (his second in two years) so he has been admitted into the ICU at a local hospital. The doctor has said his prognosis isn’t too good, given that he’s already 80, has expanded lungs, and also a weak heart.
It’s a very trying time for me, but I promise I’ll get back to BBB as soon as I can.
July 5, 2007 at 4:45 am #162606PolarBearNPRParticipantPhilip,
My prayers are with you and your family. Don’t worry about BBB. Take care of Real Life . . . we’re always here when you can make it.
July 6, 2007 at 8:41 pm #162603MrOatsMemberPhilip, please take Heather’s suggestion into consideration and take care!
You and your father will be in my thoughts, wishing you good intentions.
July 7, 2007 at 12:28 am #162600Jeff HesterKeymasterHoping you are given the strength for what you’re going through, and wishing the best for your father. Take care, Philip.
July 19, 2007 at 12:37 am #162607PolarBearNPRParticipantI wanted to update you all on Philip’s situation. He is extremely stressed and emotionally drained right now, and as a community we really need to support him in this, his hour of need. Following the stroke on July 4, Philip’s dad was in the ICU for five days and still remains in the hospital. He is in a vegetative state, requiring oxygen and feeding tubes. It is very hard to see someone who has been so strong all through life in this basically unconscious state.
Philip’s dad is a Christian so the love of Christ and the promise of eternal life are comforting; but the day-to-day stressors are really taking a toll on the family. They are meeting tonight to discuss the next steps. If Philip’s dad is discharged to his home, caregivers would need to be hired as his mum can’t do it all. Also under consideration is an extended care facility placement.
If you could take a few moments to remember Philip’s Dad, Albert; as well as Philip and his whole family as they struggle with these decisions; I’m sure he would appreciate it.
August 5, 2007 at 8:48 pm #162608PolarBearNPRParticipantTo update everyone on this situation, I just learned that Philip’s dad passed away on August 4 at 3:24 local time. And while things had been deteriorating since the stroke occurred in early July, when one passes, we can’t help but feel the loss.
From what Philip has told me of his father, the memory of his strength of character will be passed on for generations.
Please say a prayer for our friend and his family at this trying time. Even though we may not be close enough to physically support each other, its the spiritual connection through our friendship and working together that can help him in this time of need.
August 5, 2007 at 9:18 pm #162602MrEggsaladParticipantPhilip, man that really sucks to hear about your dad 🙁
You and your family will be in my prayers. I hope things go well for you and that you all get through this okay.
August 6, 2007 at 12:24 am #162601princeGParticipantMy deepest condolences, Philip..
August 6, 2007 at 12:26 am #162609PolarBearNPRParticipant*from Vanessa whose mouse is broken*
Philip, i’m sorry to hear about this. I hope you’re doing okay and know that you have all our support here at BBB. I know you will make it through this because you are strong person and i also hope your family is doing well too. Be sure to let us know if there is anything we can do.
August 6, 2007 at 2:06 am #162604MrOatsMemberI’m sorry for your loss Philip… Please do not hesitate, for one second, if you would like to share your feelings/thoughts with any of/all of us here on BBB.
I hope you and your family are getting through this okay. You and your whole family are in my thoughts and good intentions. Take care. Stay strong.
August 6, 2007 at 4:52 pm #162605imported_Ven0mMemberWow… my condolences Philip. *hugs*
August 7, 2007 at 5:55 am #162611PhilipModeratorFirst off, I’d like to thank Heather for conveying the news to the staff at BBB. And secondly I’d like to hug each and every one of you for your love, prayers and support-*HUGS* You guys are the best and although we are thousands of miles apart, I really feel the warmth and that is a great comfort to me.
The last four weeks were extremely stressful for me and my family. My father suffered his second stroke on the evening of July 4, in his apartment. We admitted him into a local hospital in the early hours of July 5. The doc did a CT scan and found that it was an embolic stroke, meaning that a blood clot had formed in his heart, and travelled all the way up to his brain. This stroke was worse than the first one because it occurred on the left side of the brain, destroying my father’s speech ability, and completely paralyzing the right side of his body.
Coupled with his existing ailments, including asthma, blood thickening, prostate problems, and old age, it was excruciating for me to see him the next morning in the ICU, and on subsequent days. Fortunately the neurologist was very patient and understanding. He explained to us that surgery wouldn’t help, and also that sooner or later his condition would go downhill.
He reached a plateau level six days after being admitted, so he was transferred to a normal ward. I still remember the daily trips to and fro to the hospital, disrupted schedules, frayed nerves, and generally being stressed out. I stayed with my dad for several nights at the hospital and prayed that God would take him soon, to end his physical suffering.
On August 4, the hospital called me to say that my dad’s condition was deteriorating rapidly. I rushed down to the hospital to see him but when I got there, he had already passed away several minutes earlier. There was some paperwork to be done, then we transported him to our aunt’s house where he laid in a coffin for three days (a Chinese custom). A wake service was held for him on the next day, and subsequently a memorial service in church on August 6. After that, we followed his body to the crematorium.
This morning my family and I went to collect his ashes in an urn. We took it to my grandfather’s grave in a Christian cemetery here, and the urn was entombed.
It was hard for me to accept my father’s passing, but I know that now his physical suffering has finally come to an end, and that he is at peace. The loss of a loved one always hits a family hard, but I’ve always believed that time is a good healer, and I’m sure my father would have wanted us to move on instead of continuing to mourn for him.
Once again, my sincere gratitude to all you wonderful guys and girls who have helped me so much with your love, prayers, and support. BBB is definitely the best.
August 7, 2007 at 12:06 pm #162610PolarBearNPRParticipant*hugs* to you Philip and continued prayers for healing. It’s good to see you here.
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