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February 23, 2005 at 5:30 am #17097neo_ny_23Member
hi,
i am hving my final exams this week. Today I had 3 huge exams and tomorow am gonna hv the fourth. am sooooo stressed out since last 7 weeks or so. The curriculum in RIT is one of the toughest here coz we have quarterly system, where have exams almost every single day. so, we have about 60 odd exams and projects in 77 days long quarter. and just 7 days break between the quarters.the problem is, sometimes, i get sooooooooooooooooooooooooo stressed out that i feel depressed. i feel soooo helpless, when i know am trying hard but still behind in sum subject. i dont hv much friends because, here every1 is just too busy catching up with other courses and its not realy a “party” college. and rest of the days am too stressed out to go out anywhere.
Sometimes it worries me, like i feel soo depressed..therez no one to talk to.. my roomies are also like hibernating in their own rooms with their own course load. Then i turn towards things like, online chat rooms, and crap. and i get conscious about things like my looks, money and everything. and it in turn makes me even more depressed. about looks. hm. some ppl think am cute and some think am ugly. it bothers me. i dont know why am giving other ppl more importance about what they think abt my looks. but in the end, if some one says, “i hate ur ugly face”, then it does hurt.
About money, i dont get lot of time to work part time coz of the schedule and it doesnt help me either. i dont hv a car, so that i culd go to offcampus and buy things cheaper there rather than buying over-expensive things from oncampus stores.. and i cant even ask ne one for a date.
So all these factors take a huge chunk of me and make me feel low. I dont know how to come over it. i try hard to spend most of the time here in BBB or spending it online with my close buddies.. but still it sucks. I dont know what to do. Every one hates my looks. so i dont know how to improve on it. I need lots of money for my over-expensive college. and I need a job. A full time job to keep me busy all summer and to earn some money for atleast a cheap second hand car and my food. I feel like crap. 🙁
February 23, 2005 at 5:56 am #115273TigerbladeParticipantwelcome to college, eh? none of this was in the brochure, that much i know. yeah the same thing happens to the best of us at times… pressures building, lots of classes all putting a ridiculous amount of work on us, apparently not realizing that there are other classes to deal with, etc… then there’s the social stress, the physical strain, the list goes on. but i guess that’s part of the whole “experience.” this is what’s supposed to prepare us for the “real world” out there, to get us ready for the stresses and pressures of life. yeah it sucks pretty bad sometimes, but think of the times when you’re having a good time and enjoying yourself, even if its not a “party” time.
everyone gets stressed out, and lots of people, especially our age, get depressed having to deal with all the things we have to. just know that you’re not the only one, and it does eventually end.
now if you’ll excuse me, i still have about three more exams to study for. =(
February 23, 2005 at 7:14 am #115271EEDOKMemberThey do it on purpose, they try to overstress you so you fail. They do it so the majority of students fail, then have to pay more tuition. It’s the system what can you do, I’m doing better than people that are smarter than me, as I’m as about laid back as they come.
February 23, 2005 at 1:34 pm #115276gossipingraeMemberno, that is definately NOT true. i have never met a teacher who piles on the work so much that you fail on purpose. where are you getting your information from? many professors have gone to college and received their doctorate degree becasue they enjoy teaching so much.
failing out of college has nothing to do with tuition. at least not in pennsylvania.
neo. keep your head up. trust me, i am only taking 12 credits this semester, but they are allllll upper level classes and, guess what. they are all group work too. im constantly meeting 3 + times a day with several groups. it’s hard. but you can do it!
SMILE!
February 23, 2005 at 1:37 pm #115279CoolMindedMemberYou need to find a back up plan, like me. I’m attending community college and it sucks, but I got a back up plan. I have money trouble too, but I have a back up plan. My back up plan is this, I created an invention and plan on patining it sooner or later I will be rich. If you got a back up plan go for it.
February 23, 2005 at 3:37 pm #115277gossipingraeMemberI think with a little time management, you will start to see your stress start to melt away. I am big on sticking with a schedule. I know it’s hard for us college bums to wake up at the same time every day, and go to bed at the same time everyday, but try it.
Say to yourself, “Self, I am going to read my bio textbook from 2-3:30 today.” When you complete that task, do something that is rewarding to you. I like to reward myself a lot when I complete a task. Take a walk outside somewhere. I know it’s the middle of winter and it’s freezing (esp. in NY where you are), but that breath of fresh air will clear your head and wake you up!
As far as being broke…we’re all broke, man! I don’t have a job at my school. I can’t afford to let my grades fall. I’m far too busy doing other activities and schoolwork. Why work? Yeah, you need money. We all need money, but once you graduate, you will be working for the next 45 years. That’s the way I see it.
I have one more piece of advice…GET OFF THE COMPUTER! Sure, the net is fun sometimes, but there are plenty of other things that you could be doing. Don’t spend all your time in front of a computer screen. I tend to find that it makes me slack on my work. Besides, interacting with other people and animals is fun.
February 23, 2005 at 3:40 pm #115275neo_ny_23Memberhaha, my back up plan is just to survive RIT’s repeated attempts of murdering me either through the harsh professors who are like the incarnation of devils, or dying of starvation due to the over expensive, but non nutritous food or harsh weather conditions here. The only thing that pushes me is the 60k + minimum salary per year once I graduate out from this college and offcourse the co-op which I should get within 1 year by which i can earn upto 20 to 25 bucks per hour. after that am never visiting this college everrrr!
and thanks for everyone’s support here. and I will take up ur word Rae, Tigerblade and coolminded. thanks every1. 🙂February 23, 2005 at 3:43 pm #115278gossipingraeMemberway to go, slugger. let us know how it works out!
February 23, 2005 at 3:55 pm #115269OreoMemberRae is TOTALLY correct about time management! It is something I try to instill in high school students so that when they get to college it’s a bit easier. Everyone tells you that things are great once you go to college… What they don’t tell you is your late teens and early 20’s suck bigtime! (Yet…they are still better than high school!) I am told that the 30’s are supposed to be awesome…I still have a little way to go before then…becoming ever shorter with each second (EEK!). But I remember the times when I paid my rent…then realized…”CRAP! My electric bill is due…and my phone bill…but I still have to eat.!” Not to mention I was taking a full course load of upper level classes and working and STILL not making enough money. BLAH…just remember, you will get through all of this and it will prepare you for bigger things to come as you enter the “real world.” You will be able to handle whatever comes at you. Just think that if you had not encountered tests before you went to college and then suddenly had to learn how to study? That would be terrible, and think of how frightening “EXAMS” sounded when you first started college? They DO suck, yes…but you’ve survived.
Take it from some one who has been there (not THAT long ago) and I am now on the other side…you just have to hang in there…and I REALLY mean it…listen to Rae’s advice…time management is the key. 🙂February 23, 2005 at 5:27 pm #115274TigerbladeParticipantEEDOK wrote:They do it on purpose, they try to overstress you so you fail. They do it so the majority of students fail, then have to pay more tuition. It’s the system what can you do, I’m doing better than people that are smarter than me, as I’m as about laid back as they come.you cant be serious. i certainly hope you’re just joking and my sarcasm detector didnt pick it up. you seriously think professors deliberately try to flunk students out? i dont know what schools you went to, but, um…. you need to get a grip on reality, man.neo – yes, time management can be key. that’s one thing i know i didnt do as well as i really should have these last few years, and now i’m starting to realize my mistake. “hmm, play poker for 6 hours til 3 am, or study for my exam that’s worth 25% of my grade? poker it is!!” not a good idea. just stick with it, use your time wisely, and try to have as much fun as you can. i know you said you dont have many friends, but try to make some. try to talk to other people in your classes, see if any of them have similar interests; heck, even if you can get a study group of some kind together, it’s a start. in my experience thus far, study groups rarely spend their whole time together studying.
and yes, get off the internet when you can. as much fun as it can be online, the world is waiting. these are supposed to be the best years of our lives – go out and try to live the dream. even if you have so much work you think you’re going to implode, get out and relax for while, away from a computer. and hang in there. Remember these 4 little words: “This too shall pass.”
February 23, 2005 at 8:54 pm #115268Jeff HesterKeymasterThis thread reminds me of the Reliant K song “College Kids”
Quote:College Kidssomeone please save us, us college kids!
what my parents told me is what i did
they said go to school and be a college kid
but in the end i question why i didi’m poor, i’m starving, i’m flat broke, i’ve got no cash to spend
sell all my books for front row tickets to dave matthews band
my girlfriend’s at another school, i know this year will test her
i called, found out she had three other boyfriends last semesterand that’s why i say
oh no! not for me, not for me
call it torture, call it university
no! arts and crafts is all i need
i’ll take calligraphy and then i’ll make a fake degree80 grand later i found out that all that i had learned
is that you should show up to take your finals and your midterms
the party scene is kinda mean, i think it’s sick and twisted
the navy showed up at my dorm and claimed that i enlistedand that’s why i say
oh no! not for me, not for me
call it torture, call it university
no! arts and crafts is all i need
i’ll take calligraphy and then i’ll make a fake degreedon’t get excited. she’ll say “no” without a doubt you see
and i’ve decided college girls just won’t go out with me
they make me nervous and they always catch me off my guard
like cell phone services i drop out cause college is too hardit’s time to call my father
cause it’s his alma mater
good grades aren’t what they seem
i think he knows the dean
it’s time to call my father
cause it’s his alma mater
he says he’s proud of me
but college always was his dream
and i would always say it’s not for meoh no! not for me, not for me
call it torture, call it university
no! arts and crafts is all i need
i’ll take calligraphy and then i’ll make a fake degreesomeone please save us, us college kids!
what my parents told me is what i did
they said go to school and be a college kid
but in the end i question why i diddo what will make you happy
do what you feel is right
only but one thing matters
learn how to live your life[in background:]
(phi, beta, delta, cappa
someone please save us, us college kids!
what my parents told me is what i did
they said go to school and be a college kid
but in the end i question why i did)do what will make God happy
do what you feel is right
only but one thing matters
learn how to live your lifeFebruary 24, 2005 at 1:35 am #115272EEDOKMemberThat information is wrong? Why do you think they have the curve to ensure that 1/3 of the students fail in most institutions? Why is there the whole talk at the beginning of each class to look to your right, then to your left, as only one of you will be passing? It’s to put direct pressure on to you to lead the way for others who manage stress better to shine while others fail.
February 24, 2005 at 2:40 am #115270OreoMemberAll right…on your last post EEDOK I HAVE to say something….Why do kids fail??? Even the song Jeff posted alludes to it: Parents pay for grades. In high school, at one school at which I taught I was told that the principal changed the grade a student earned to a higher grade that the student certainly did not earn the grade. I am SURE I am not the only teacher this happened to at that school. How do I know this? I was told that it happened all of the time and there was nothing I could do about it. The sad thing is this happens a LOT more than one would think. It pisses me off because all it does it hurt kids. They think they are prepared for college and they think they are good students….the truth is that they don’t really know how to work and earn a grade. THAT’S why so many fail out…inflated grades and not knowing how to be students…yet they are really good at whatever mommy and daddy thought was more important or at playing video games. The problem gets passed on to college professors because of schools that are afraid to lose money or actually make their students work. It is not EVERY school, but it is too many of them…it has made me somewhat bitter about the school system we have in place here in the States.
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