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I’m in Alabama and my 19-year old daughter is attending college in another state. I need to know if there’s ANY way possible for me to monitor her “actions” through her computer, i.e. I ultimately would like to know who she’s chatting with (via Yahoo! Messenger), and I wish I could get into her email account. Is there any way I could do that??? If so, please tell me how???
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“A concerned Dad”That’s violating her right to privacy. She’s 19 years old which means you can’t even get information on how her grades are without HER consent. If you think something sinister might be happening…call the police or campus security. Otherwise, there’s not a whole lot that you can legally do. Sorry…..maybe try talking to her?
Funny that at 18 you’re an adult, but until you’re 23 your parents are responsible for your finances through school…thats about the only real loophole that any parent would have in the whole spy ordeal at college. Finance base, that is, and even that’s thin.
I can understand your desire to know every little thing she may or may not be doing, but the fact of the matter is your daughter is an adult now. I don’t care whether your in Idaho, Indiana, or Istanbul, your little girl isn’t so little anymore. It’s time you trusted her and let her follow her own path. She’s going to make mistakes and probably do some stupid things, but your job isn’t to “monitor”, “spy” or invade her privacy. Your job as a father is to offer support, advice and understanding. Unless your willing to push your daughter away, which is what will happen when she discovers your spying attempts, you should not do anything to provoke or violate your daughters rights to privacy. The choice is yours, and as a father I can relate to your concerns, but you are going to have to trust your daughter sooner or later. Might as well start before it’s too late.
Monologuing aside, the only way to do what you ask requires applications which we will not condone in this forum. So I’m afraid your technical answer will not be found here. I wish you the best, and I truly hope you decide to choose trust over omniscience. 🙂
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