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September 8, 2004 at 5:36 am #8655Jeff HesterKeymaster
What do you hate about instant messaging?
Read my reasons, then share your own IM pet peeves.
September 8, 2004 at 11:10 pm #72788Someguy03MemberI notice Jeff says that he believes he is too available. I can agree with him in the sense that its hard to try and manage Yahoo! Messenger, MSN Messenger, AIM, and ICQ.
After spending a long time experimenting with programs that allow you to be on several IM services at once, and trying to run 4 messenger programs at once, I have found that it seems like that no matter which way you do it, theres just too much management.
After discovering that 99% of my friends use AIM, its basically the only thing I use and am ever on. The only time I ever use MSN Messenger or Yahoo! Messenger is when I have to contact someone that only uses that IM service. I don’t like how 3rd party messengers work because they are too complex, have a poor interface even with skins, and not all features in 3rd party Instant Messengers work with other messengers (Direct Connecting for example). I also don’t like having to try and talk to people through 4 diffrent messenger programs, and have found that the only reasonable thing to do is to simply only use other Instant Messenger with an addon (Messenger Plus or DeadAim for example).
The other part of IM’ing I hate is that there is no solution to avoiding people you don’t want to talk to at the moment / don’t want to talk to ever besides blocking them, and when you block them, at school, they give you crap about doing that. And if you don’t block them you have to make up an excuse for not talking to them all the time or you have to always explain why you don’t want to talk at the moment. You would think that ghosting would solve this problem but then people you wan’t to talk to don’t know your online.
Another thing I hate about IMing is the people. Alot of my friends that are guys IM me and just act stupid, send me random phrases, or just bang on the keyboard and send me combinations of letters because they have nothing to do. Then you have these people that you don’t know at all and they grab your screename off the internet and IM you because they are bored, and theres no interest at all to talk to them because one, theres nothing to talk about, and two, because you don’t know them.
Then you have these girls that IM you from another state and want to go out with you or something. I signed up for Myspace.com and because my friends prefer them over Xangas, and I have posted my pictures, and I get IMed all the time by girls that I don’t know, that don’t know me, that are completly sluts, and just want to talk to you just because they think you are hot.These people IM you with no plans of anything to talk about, and simply say hi to you for the hell of it. You shouldn’t IM someone unless you are good friends or unless you actually have something you want to talk about. It seems People think that they can just IM you and hopefully there will end up being something to talk about.
It’s an enviornment crowded by good people (smart, wise, logical, clever, mature, civilized) and bad people (annoying, sluts, idiots, retards, jerks, morons), and the bad people piss off the good people. This causes a problem because there is really no way to seperate the good people from the bad, and it makes IMing suck.
September 8, 2004 at 11:17 pm #72793AnimeUSAParticipantFrom reading Jeff’s post about why he hates IM, I can understand that. To me IM is important for communication. So I am always on every IM network. That way, I can keep tabs on my friends in other countries. If you get tired of people IMing you that you don’t know, change the setting so that only people on your buddy list can see you online. The only IM network I had to do that on was AIM because too many people know my screen name.
September 8, 2004 at 11:34 pm #72789RabidKittenParticipantIt’s funny because regardless of IMing’s flaws, I really still have no problem with it. I keep my friends separated enough that if I don’t want to talk to a certain genre of friends then I just don’t log on. Like if I want my family to piss off, I leave AIM off. If I want my RP buddies to take a hike, I leave MSN off. That and there’s always the lovely choice of invisibility, away messages, ignores and the like to help me salvage what I have left of my sanity.
I can completely relate to the annoying slow typers and lagging complaints. Especially when it’s 3 in the morning, it’s just you and another going to town on a really important, turning point, descriptive RP and suddenly it takes them 15 minutes to type out a response. Honestly, it can get very annoying, especially when you know there’s nobody else they’re talking to because not 30 minutes ago they were complaining about being bored, which is the whole reason you both decided to do the scene now and not in the morning. *frustrated sigh*
As for saying “hi” first and hearing nothing, I have a…thing…that I don’t IM people first. I always feel like I’m bothering someone. And if I do IM someone first, it’s simply for annoyance factors or because I know that in that instant they’re trying to IM me first and I’m going to beat them to the punch, ha ha! *couragous pose* …or whatever.
And those who are always doing the stupid “*Snap snap snap* what’s taking you so long *snap snap* hellooooooo *snap snap* h-hey, hey cletus, h-hey cleuts. Look, h-hey *snap snap* look I can make it bigger if I rub it *snap snap*” crap. I either yell at them, tell them to feck off and ignore/block them, or I tell them to calm the heck down or next time I will shut their butts down and not talk to them. Patience is a virtue, dammit. especially when you’re making a very intricate layout for them and they do nothing but leave you alone to do your work and ask you every 20 seconds if you’re done! *huff, puff* …bad memories, sorry. My Doctor says it’s good to let it out.
*shrug* Generally I leave AIM on because they’re harmless. MSN and Yahoo are really the only ones that if I feel like it I’ll switch it on.
September 9, 2004 at 12:07 am #72792Dr KimbleParticipantQuote:quote:I’m a slave to the IM – This one is purely a matter of self-control, but most avid IM-users become psychologically conditioned to respond to the melodic tone announcing the arrival of a new instant message. Like Pavlov’s dogs, we jump to attention, eager to see which friend has blessed us with their wit and charm. Or we cringe, knowing that we really should be working, nose-to-the-grindstone, but can’t seem to resist the urge to check. Before you know it, you’re sucked into a conversation with someone you really don’t know, or that you really don’t care about. An hour later… *ping!*… and they cycle repeats. Charles Hummel described it as the “tyranny of the urgent.”Oh, this one is soooo true. I know I have many things “better” to be doing, but NO, I have to be in conversations saying things like “lol” “hi” “yes” etc. I have self control, by all means…I did survive this summer didn’t I? But still, I just can’t resist that annoying ping of a new message. The same is becoming true of forums…I just can’t stay away, my computer/and school computers(which I am on now) are eating me alive, but I can’t complain too much, I rather enjoy my time online. I am a slave indeed, but at least I am a happy slave.
I enjoy IM to keep in touch with those who are out of state and country, but when my little sister IMs me and I am in the room next to her..that is where I start to go insane. I guess that is what the block button is for, but I am a Pavlov dog…I salivate when I get an IM 😛
September 9, 2004 at 12:09 am #72794AwesomeSauceParticipantQuote:quote:Originally posted by someguy03Another thing I hate about IMing is the people. Alot of my friends that are guys IM me and just act stupid, send me random phrases, or just bang on the keyboard and send me combinations of letters because they have nothing to do. Then you have these people that you don’t know at all and they grab your screename off the internet and IM you because they are bored, and theres no interest at all to talk to them because one, theres nothing to talk about, and two, because you don’t know them.
These people IM you with no plans of anything to talk about, and simply say hi to you for the hell of it. You shouldn’t IM someone unless you are good friends or unless you actually have something you want to talk about. It seems People think that they can just IM you and hopefully there will end up being something to talk about.
Welcome to my world. Whenever I sign on, one of my friends will always say “Howdy” for no reason at all, or probably just because they are bored. I’ll be like “Did you want to tell me something?” and they’ll be like “No….” or they’ll just say “???” Uggh, that’s another thing I hate. Some kids on my contact list are so ignorant, and they’ll just reply to one of my questions or comments with a “???” And I’ll say “Did you not understand what I just said?”, which would have been something perfectly readable.
A few of my friends will just open up a conversation with me, and say something useless/pointless/stupid or they’ll just bang on their keyboard to be annoying. What’s also annoying is if they are REALLY slow at typing and/or they suck at typing and spell everything wrong.
And almost all of the girls on my MSN messenger contact list have their names in this format:
~*~*I heArD yOuR dAd WeNt To A rEsTuRaUnT aNd AtE aLl Of ThE fOoD iN tHe ReStUrAuNt aNd ThEy HaD tO cLoSe ThE rEsTuRaUnT!!!!!!*~*~
Dear gosh, it makes my contact list look so ugly and cluttered… but then again, there’s MsgPlus! 😎
Anyway, there are many things I hate about instant messaging, but I voted for Too Available. BTW, I am glad almost everyone in my area uses MSN messenger. I beleive it’s one of the cleanest ones out there.
September 9, 2004 at 12:21 am #72790RabidKittenParticipantI love it when people use punctuation as a response. Whenever I see someone do that, I suddenly have the urge to type back ” ,,,” or “;:;”. Why not? Punctuation is punctuation. Some say that “But with a bunch of question marks, you say that your confused” Why not just say “What are you talking about?” Or something along those lines.
Yeah, saying that you’re confused. Well with a bunch of comma’s I’m saying that I’m taking a long pause to contemplate your idiocy.
September 9, 2004 at 12:25 am #72795AwesomeSauceParticipantQuote:quote:Originally posted by RabidKittenI love it when people use punctuation as a response. Whenever I see someone do that, I suddenly have the urge to type back ” ,,,” or “;:;”. Why not? Punctuation is punctuation. Some say that “But with a bunch of question marks, you say that your confused” Why not just say “What are you talking about?” Or something along those lines.
Lmao! I will do that next time somebody says “???”.
(Thanks for the email, Dr. Kimble, I thought my little “Simpsons Reference” was funny, too.:))
September 9, 2004 at 12:28 am #72786CharlesMemberFour words: America Online Instant Messenger.
These people are the scum of the IM world (not the users, the company). The only reason they have users is because everybody uses it, if that makes sense. AOL corporate pigs sit in their rat infested building plotting of new ways to make money off their half-assed IM client all because their ISP is going to hell. Now this is just my opinion, but if AOL didn’t exist, the .NET network would actually be used and popular. AOL stands in the way of innovation, and that is fatally wrong.
They constantly change their network to prevent users from using the client they want. They block AIM “expressions” that aren’t theirs. This company has repeatedly tried to stop anybody from creating anything better than AOL– but they go about it in the completely wrong way. I see a company would want to do this, but they wouldn’t have to resort to such unfair business practice if they had a somewhat good client.
None of the reasons above piss me off nearly as much as AOL bringing down the IM market with it does. Interoperability is good, AOL doesn’t realize this. Innovation is good, AOL doesn’t realize this. Freedom is good, AOL doesn’t realize this. AOL is either entirely out of touch with the users of IM, or they don’t care…either way, they need to cut their BS before they ever get me back to use any of their software.
September 9, 2004 at 1:25 am #72787DavidParticipantQuote:quote:Originally posted by CharlesFour words: America Online Instant Messenger.
These people are the scum of the IM world (not the users, the company). The only reason they have users is because everybody uses it, if that makes sense. AOL corporate pigs sit in their rat infested building plotting of new ways to make money off their half-assed IM client all because their ISP is going to hell. Now this is just my opinion, but if AOL didn’t exist, the .NET network would actually be used and popular. AOL stands in the way of innovation, and that is fatally wrong.
They constantly change their network to prevent users from using the client they want. They block AIM “expressions” that aren’t theirs. This company has repeatedly tried to stop anybody from creating anything better than AOL– but they go about it in the completely wrong way. I see a company would want to do this, but they wouldn’t have to resort to such unfair business practice if they had a somewhat good client.
None of the reasons above piss me off nearly as much as AOL bringing down the IM market with it does. Interoperability is good, AOL doesn’t realize this. Innovation is good, AOL doesn’t realize this. Freedom is good, AOL doesn’t realize this. AOL is either entirely out of touch with the users of IM, or they don’t care…either way, they need to cut their BS before they ever get me back to use any of their software.
I think most people know where I stand on AOL – I agree 100%.
Quote:quote:I have a…thing…that I don’t IM people first. I always feel like I’m bothering someone.Wow, I’ve always felt the same way…except with close friends, and of course DJHyperbyte (He’s fun to annoy. :P).
I only have problems with the people that won’t leave me alone. I usually get morons that IM me, and then after I’ve answered their question, they go on with some BS that I don’t give a crap about. If I don’t know how to do something, don’t ask me again.
Also, maybe it’s just me, but here are some of the stupidest most-common things I get asked:
*Can you write abc program to do xyz?
*You know how to program in abc on xyz platform, can you teach me?
*(After saying NO to any of the above…) Do you know anyone that can?If you ask me any of these questions (Or you are just stupid :P) you will get blocked. 🙂 But really, feel free to IM me if you do need to have an intelligent conversation with me.
September 9, 2004 at 5:25 am #72791RabidKittenParticipantYes, morons are great fun. When I was really really working at the layout/graphic/icon ordeal I’d get them all the time. “Oh can you make this and this for me” And then they’d have no idea what they’d want, style, color, theme, and when I’d give it to them, after no input, they’d get angry because it’s “not what they wanted”! You didn’t know what you wanted, dingleberry!
Oh god, and the people asking me how to clutter their layouts up so they looked as tacky and gross as possible, or as they put it “How do I put music in, how do I put pictures and ads in those nice pretty boxes you made and coded out for me, and oh now that you did that, can you make me four other sets in like 20 minutes?” Gods, I swear. Dont they know that making *counts* 4 different graphics, one of which has to line up perfectly with another set of buttons that it’s going to lay over, then coding it all out so there are 2-5 separate text boxes all from scratch takes just a tiny bit longer than 20 minutes for me at least.
And then when telling them (back in the day when I didn’t know html that well) that I couldn’t help code anything but css, the infamous “do you know anyone…” question would come up.
I’d also get people who’d get ticked off about me putting my copyright watermark in the corner. Firstly, I had that written out as requirements on my site, and I faded it down to the point that you couldn’t see it unless you were pointedly looking for it anyway. Not like some of those god awful graphics places that make it in bright yellow with white and red outlines or something. Bah, it was obnoxious. I still get people doing that sometimes and I just say “I don’t do that anymore” And they bugger off, unless I’m feeling bored and wanting to make something.
Eh, I don’t know too much about intelligent conversation from me. Just ask N8R about my “intelligent” conversations. Hah! So memo to self; don’t bother David.
September 11, 2004 at 9:01 pm #72796TropicalMemberQuote:quote:Originally posted by CharlesFour words: America Online Instant Messenger.
These people are the scum of the IM world (not the users, the company). The only reason they have users is because everybody uses it, if that makes sense. AOL corporate pigs sit in their rat infested building plotting of new ways to make money off their half-assed IM client all because their ISP is going to hell. Now this is just my opinion, but if AOL didn’t exist, the .NET network would actually be used and popular. AOL stands in the way of innovation, and that is fatally wrong.
They constantly change their network to prevent users from using the client they want. They block AIM “expressions” that aren’t theirs. This company has repeatedly tried to stop anybody from creating anything better than AOL– but they go about it in the completely wrong way. I see a company would want to do this, but they wouldn’t have to resort to such unfair business practice if they had a somewhat good client.
None of the reasons above piss me off nearly as much as AOL bringing down the IM market with it does. Interoperability is good, AOL doesn’t realize this. Innovation is good, AOL doesn’t realize this. Freedom is good, AOL doesn’t realize this. AOL is either entirely out of touch with the users of IM, or they don’t care…either way, they need to cut their BS before they ever get me back to use any of their software.
AOL Instant Messenger just happens to be the most popular. It’s also the easiest to use in my opinion.
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