Ahhh, but you can… I have a friend that manages it… as in you can send him an instant message, his name isn’t highlighted, doesn’t show up as online, and he still gets it… of course when you attempt to send the message it has this nice little quote saying “The user appears to be offline and *might* not get the message” now if he’s really offline, I get an error, but when he’s really not offline but hidden, I get his away message…