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January 23, 2005 at 4:31 pm #105913OreoMember
That’s awesome. It’s cool to have a friend from the opposite sex. I used to always have almost only male friends. I was like the token girl who they’d go to for girl advice and they’d give my guy advice…even if I didn’t want it. Don’t think too much about it. Just have fun. It will give you a chance to learn how girls think and whatnot. 🙂 I’m glad everything is going well. 🙂
April 14, 2005 at 3:05 am #105929m3rcyMemberhaha that cackling cracks me up.
Anyway, you asked for previous experiences. I’ve done it before and it was quite a roller coaster. In the end it turned out as what vikshanker said at the end of his statement. I don’t agree with the rest of it though. Just my opinion.
however ‘messing around’ with your best friend never hurts 😉
Heres my story..
My best friend is a chick named Gemma. Shes beautiful in everyway and I can say with confidence that I love her. Just as a friend though~ Anyway, she asked me out one day and things were going good. First it was a tad weird but she actually -knew- me so she was always herself and could always tell if something was up. We went out for quite some time. She ended up braking up with me after about 5 months. She then came back to me after half a year. She begged me to take her back and I did. We were together for about 6 months and then she broke up with me AGAIN. I continued life normally after that for about a year. Then once AGAIN she comes back to me asking me to take her back. I did again stupidly enough. We were really close this time and things were looking good.
She broke up with me after about 8 months. ahaha I should have learnt from the first time, anyway, I was very hurt. So hurt in fact I never spoke to her for about half a year. I finally let in after this time and told her how much she hurt me. I made her suffer for what she caused me. I made her sit there and listen to me. A couple of times she walked out and went to the toilet balling her eyes. I always made her come back and hear me out.
Now we are closer then ever. We agree to be mates only but still have flings now and again.I would never trade all that hurt for anything. What I got out of that roller coaster was maturity in a relationship sense. I -have- to treat a girl right because I know what its like to be done over like that.
Anyway, what I’m saying is that the whole thing had brought us closer. We -always- talk even though we now live in completely different lives. I will never forget her and I am confident she will never forget me.
In the end, ultimately you have to decide what you want to happen and follow your heart. Not listen to other peoples advice (not saying it dosn’t help). Is she so close to you that you know it won’t get awkward? Do you want to always remember her as someone who has always been there for you as a friend or as a mistake? If your not so close maybe you should question being with her? It might not be worth it. Yet it could be worth the world.
I wish you luck.
April 14, 2005 at 4:20 am #105917Someguy03Memberm3rcy wrote:haha that cackling cracks me up.Anyway, you asked for previous experiences. I’ve done it before and it was quite a roller coaster. In the end it turned out as what vikshanker said at the end of his statement. I don’t agree with the rest of it though. Just my opinion.
Heres my story..
My best friend is a chick named Gemma. Shes beautiful in everyway and I can say with confidence that I love her. Just as a friend though~ Anyway, she asked me out one day and things were going good. First it was a tad weird but she actually -knew- me so she was always herself and could always tell if something was up. We went out for quite some time. She ended up braking up with me after about 5 months. She then came back to me after half a year. She begged me to take her back and I did. We were together for about 6 months and then she broke up with me AGAIN. I continued life normally after that for about a year. Then once AGAIN she comes back to me asking me to take her back. I did again stupidly enough. We were really close this time and things were looking good.
She broke up with me after about 8 months. ahaha I should have learnt from the first time, anyway, I was very hurt. So hurt in fact I never spoke to her for about half a year. I finally let in after this time and told her how much she hurt me. I made her suffer for what she caused me. I made her sit there and listen to me. A couple of times she walked out and went to the toilet balling her eyes. I always made her come back and hear me out.
Now we are closer then ever. We agree to be mates only but still have flings now and again.I would never trade all that hurt for anything. What I got out of that roller coaster was maturity in a relationship sense. I -have- to treat a girl right because I know what its like to be done over like that.
Anyway, what I’m saying is that the whole thing had brought us closer. We -always- talk even though we now live in completely different lives. I will never forget her and I am confident she will never forget me.
In the end, ultimately you have to decide what you want to happen and follow your heart. Not listen to other peoples advice (not saying it dosn’t help). Is she so close to you that you know it won’t get awkward? Do you want to always remember her as someone who has always been there for you as a friend or as a mistake? If your not so close maybe you should question being with her? It might not be worth it. Yet it could be worth the world.
I wish you luck.
I find it so weird that so many relationships my age (high school) seem to repeat themselves. Alot of my friends have gone out with the same girl 1-2 or sometimes even 3 times because they break up and then get together again. What is the point in that? If you keep getting back together, whoever is doing the “dumping” is obviously not thinking it over well enough.
April 14, 2005 at 3:57 pm #105914OreoMemberIt’s a safety thing…you know the other person and know that you can date them. Though, dating the same person over and over again without resolving the problems of the previous time sets you up to repeat the same mistake and break up again. High school is for learning how to act with the opposite sex…and who better to learn about the opposite sex than a trusted friend (I mean subconsciously…that’s the truth..even if people are not thinking it actively). Wait until you get to college…that’s when the real mind games start…..:D
April 15, 2005 at 2:28 pm #105930m3rcyMemberhahaha thats only too true.
im in college now? i think its college. i have no idea what college is acutally. im at university 😀 haha lets just leave it at that. and theres people all over the place wanting to get with you and have a relationship and all that jazz. the thing is, i don’t know a single damn person and i can’t be with them if i got no idea who they are >_< i gotta get to know them first then trust them.
//end of rantinganyway, i hope things turn out alright. sometimes its better to be straight out with it so it dosn’t confuse anyone with the mixed messages being sent. if ya get what i mean? if not, discard this post haha.
April 22, 2005 at 3:48 am #105923colinMemberWell I went out with my best friend for 3 days til she realized that it is “too akward and we are way better off as best friends”. Well that was about a month and a half ago, and not all we ever do is fight or ignore each other now, we are definitely not best friends any more. We used to be so close too.
April 22, 2005 at 4:26 am #105918Someguy03MemberShe kinda hinted that she would never go out with me unless it was in the future, so I’m not too worried.
April 22, 2005 at 8:59 pm #105928chikenkickerMembercolin wrote:Well I went out with my best friend for 3 days til she realized that it is “too akward and we are way better off as best friends”. Well that was about a month and a half ago, and not all we ever do is fight or ignore each other now, we are definitely not best friends any more. We used to be so close too.i went out with a friend, we werent best friends but we were friends nonetheless anyway we dated for 3 weeks, and now we dont talk as much as we used to, i try to talk to her, she tries to talk to me but it alwasy seems so awkward
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