February 27, 2006 at 3:10 am #138410gossipingraeMember
So okay, i had to get all caught up, since i've been away for a while. i was in this same situation (kind of). when she says she wants to date you in a few years, don't believe it. some guy i was “involved” with for 3 years told me one day in the future we would probably get together. so i sat here like an idiot and waited and waited..not dating anyone else, just waited to be with him, and he turns around and goes out with other women!
i basically told myself that this guy was just using me. i'm not saying this girl is using you, but it seems she is putting you on the back burner until it is convenient for HER. that is not a relationship. that is crap. the same thing the guy did to me. i was only his friend when it was convenient for him and when he wanted to mess around.
i understand it's hard. when you like someone but they do not like you back.
i would advise not making out with her at all. it will end up hurting you more because you have romantic feelings for her. i hope it works out for you hun. keep me posted or send me a private message if you want some other advice. i'll do my best to help you.February 27, 2006 at 5:29 pm #138394sciencefeelingMember
I really don´t know what to tell you here, someguy. I have no clue what is going through her mind, but please don´t judge her nor be dramatic about her behaviour. Maybe he is just kissing those guys, you are saying she doesn´t go to bed with all of them, just “sometimes” she does “more”. I mean, not that I find completely normal to go and kiss someone you just met, but she is too young to be mature, and she is obviously just proving herself she is attractive to guys, probably she is just insecure with low self-confidence and looking for approval. Don´t be dramatic and think that she is going to go into more serious things, she doesn´t have to, it is possible, but not more possible than any other girl.
Another thing is…a girl or a person has not less value just cause he/she has been with other person. Maybe you guys will fall in love, and then, you will be as special to her, as if she hadn´t been with anybody else. Every relationship is different, and there is nothing you run away of if you had lots of them. lol, think of people that have been married three times, and they find their endless love in the fourth marriage, love and care is nothing you run away of cause you´ve been with other people. Or think about a prostitute, she sleeps with a lot of people, but one day she falls in love and marries and is faithful forever…don´t you think?
Natalia.-March 4, 2006 at 6:57 pm #138406Someguy03Member
YAY MORE PROBLEMS. Basically it blew over, I accepted she wasn't interested right now. Then she tells me that last night, her ex-bf came over because she was alone, and they ended up messing around with eachother. Ugh. I hate this. I'm not going to abandon her because shes my best friend, but ya. I'm mad at her for going back to him.March 4, 2006 at 7:00 pm #138399OreoMember
You know what…that's probably the best thing for your sanity. I'm sure there's another girl who's right for you. Bah! I did not date tons in high school and I did not get married until I was “older” hee hee hee…and I ended up marrying some one younger than I am…so you never know…maybe the right girl is some one you still have not met! But I think you made the right descision. 🙂March 4, 2006 at 7:11 pm #138407Someguy03Member
I know she knew that might happen when she invited him over to her house. I think she needs to grow up. Not put herself in these situations on purpose and be able to resist when they approach her.March 4, 2006 at 7:14 pm #138400OreoMember
You have hit the nail on the head my dear! 🙂 And who needs to wait around for some one to grow up? Do your own thing and what's supposed to happen will happen. 🙂 Life's too short to wait around for some one who “might” be right when the “right” person could be right around the corner. 🙂May 27, 2006 at 8:24 am #138415okie_girl79Member
When I did stuff like that, it was because I craved the intimacy, but at the same time was hurting so bad inside that I wouldn't let anyone close. If she can find someone to talk to that she can trust, that might help. Good luckMay 29, 2006 at 10:47 am #138414HeavenlyMember
Step back and change the way you treat her. She is spoilt and used to take you for granted because you are too much there and your interest is evident. I dont think she has anything good to offer you to make you happy, but if you still want to see if there is any game in this field you step back and change yourself dating others and realizing there is a world besides her.
IF she has any real true interest in you this will bother her big time and she will show you, IF not move on.
You are too young to suffer so much for such a so confused and confusing woman who really sounds shallow and spoilt.
Realize Im not judging or labeling her, but just perceiving her by what you say about her, so something really weird is there, big time.
Think about this and have more dignity not showing her too much how you feel. Unfornatelly for some that is a wonderful thing, but for others it is confusing and they tend to take for granted the ones who loved them most and dared to be honest.
There is a saying: ‘those who bend over too much get kicked in the ass'.
Think about this and remember that maybe my words sound a bit rude, but honestly … they come from a heart who was taken for granted and left behind too much, but in a way got stronger because of that and can offer some good advice for you to not let that happen anymore to you.
Let your light shine always and never allow anyone to not honour your feelings or honest because there is a wonderful world out there for you.
Good luck.July 30, 2006 at 7:22 am #138416xX.Beth.XxMember
I have found that a lot of teenage girls that are lacking something at home seem to mess around with different guys to feel wanted, needed or possibly even loved. Its not normally what they get out if that type of flings and I can say this from personal experience with a couple of my daughters friends. This may not be the case here but I dont know her or her home life situations. Kinda seems to me that she likes you but more like a friend possibly.. you seem to be a nice guy, are the ones she ‘makes out with' Nice types of guys also or are they more of the bad guy, trouble maker sorta type? If they are then you arent her type and a lot of the time girls dont change their preferences that easily yanno? If she liked you the same way you like her then she wouldnt have said you would possibly date in a year or 2… but hey thats just my opinion 😉
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