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June 19, 2004 at 5:42 pm #3326Someguy03Member
So ya, I was “going out” with this girl. Me and her, and her friends hung out at Disneyland all day, and had an awesome time (I am not going to talk about what we did, long story). Then 2 days later, yesterday, she had a end of the year dance party. Tons of kids came and crap and they got a real DJ and everything.
But like the whole time she was avoiding me, and freak dancing probably 20 minutes each with 4 diffrent guys. And then went in the side yard of the house behind some gate and kissed a guy twice. All this time I could never figure out why she was doing it, if she hadn’t dumped me yet. And I was like trying to talk to her and crap but she would keep making excuses to leave. And all the girls were trying to get me and her to dance because they kept asking if we were going out and I kept saying yes.
Then I found out after the party, that she had sent me an email 30 min before it started. I hadn’t got it… and today she was like “Oh thats why…” She still hasn’t sent it again, but I am guessing she dumped me in the email. That is terribly embarassing, watching your thought to be GF practically make out with a few guys, and thinking she just was too much of a jerk to dump you before hand, and then find out that you hadn’t got her email, probably dumping me, 30 min before the party.
If anyone can top that, post.
June 19, 2004 at 6:10 pm #43325dmeMemberThat sucks big time .
Although i’d have confronted her as soon as I noticed something was a little bit wierd. There’s no need to be aggressive or anything, but it would only help you to insist and be authorative about your own affairs. I still think she’s a jerk for not having the guts to tell you face to face. I mean, come on, breaking up by email shows a weak character.
But still, life goes on, and I’m sure there will be many more episodes of the sort, some worse, some milder. Relationships are a very touchy subject, some happen for fun, some for company, some for a soulmate (possibly love), some even for revenge. You just have to use both your mind and your heart, until you find your match. If i’m not mistaken, you’re still young, so don’t give it to much thought.
Good luck in future relationships, but be warned there will as many heart aches and tears as there will be fun and excitement.
June 25, 2004 at 9:00 am #43317Someguy03MemberShe says she dumped me because we are too good of friends. Can a girl tell me if thats even possible? Please? Or atleast explain why she would suddenly change her mind? I want to know if shes using that as an excuse or if thats REALLY why she dumped me. Thanks
Edit: NVM, I found out she hates me, wooo
June 25, 2004 at 10:09 pm #43307PhilMemberlol, why the hell are you wasting your time with a low life like that? You seem like a genuine guy, so show her what she’s worth…as in, she’s worth nothing! Revenge may not be the solution but it can be fun! She deserves nothing more than the treatment of a lower level of scum.
June 26, 2004 at 12:00 am #43318Someguy03MemberRevenge eh? This could be interesting. Anyone got any ideas? It would be nice. I wouldn’t consider myself mean or anything, since I have never done anything to her, and after all shes done to me I am a “fag.”
(my old ex told her she still liked me, and she told my old ex that I was a fag and to give up)June 26, 2004 at 1:33 am #43323TigerbladeParticipantmy advice, just completely utterly ignore her. show her she means absolutely nothing to you after what happened, and that you’re not going to waste your time on her. if you be the bigger person and just drop the issue, maybe she’ll see her mistake (not like you’re going to let her back in) and realize what a *insert your own expletive here* she is… and there’s the possibility that other girls will notice this and decide to give you a try 😉
June 26, 2004 at 1:49 am #43312CharlesMemberI say you take her best friend out on a date. Or two, or three, or yeah you get it. If you want to get revenge, this is the way to do it. She is annoyed by her friend liking you, this would tick her off even more. (that is the goal, right?) Seriously, ask her friend out. It can’t hurt, the old relationship seems to be down the gutter anyway. 😉
June 26, 2004 at 2:38 am #43319Someguy03MemberCharles plan is working. Tigerblade I am going to try yours, as it would probably end up being the best way, but I don’t know if she is going to even talk to me in the first place.
Also, if I am going to ask her about why she called me a fag, should it be hate mail or should I be sincere? I haven’t gotten “mad” yet when talking to her since this all happened.
June 26, 2004 at 2:45 am #43316DavidParticipantQuote:quote:Originally posted by someguy03Charles plan is working. Tigerblade I am going to try yours, as it would probably end up being the best way, but I don’t know if she is going to even talk to me in the first place.
Also, if I am going to ask her about why she called me a fag, should it be hate mail or should I be sincere? I haven’t gotten “mad” yet when talking to her since this all happened.
If you are going to ignore her, you don’t go emailing her. However if you have to, it’s best to be sincere about it not not look like a jackass.
I don’t understand your reasoning for even asking her though, why bother? her answer is going to be ‘because you are’, ‘I don’t know’, or ‘Leave me alone’.
My advice is to think about my ‘saying’ 😉 and move on.
June 26, 2004 at 2:54 am #43324lmpossibleMemberThe best “revenge” is to move on with your life and find happiness elsewhere. It doesn’t seem like she has much respect for you if she would “break up” with you via email and kiss another guy almost immediately, in front of you. If she really respected your friendship, would she break it off with you via email and kiss another guy on the same night? She’s playing games with you. Don’t lower yourself to her level, you deserve better than that.
June 26, 2004 at 4:09 am #43313OreoMemberShe sounds like she not only has not respect for you but no respect for herself. Don’t give her the esteem you would give to some one who actually deserves it. I had a friend that dumped a guy over e-mail when I was at university. I was REALLY mad and angry at HER because I had set them up and I thought I was a terrible thing to do. Eventually, I stopped being friends with her because that’s how she treated everything and everyone. I’d follow the iggy advice and don’t even give her a second thought….learn from it, accept it and move on with your life. I think from what you have shown here, you really care and when the right girl comes around, she will appreciate that. Try not to be so bitter from this one that you hurt someone else…like I wrote…learn from this, don’t have regrets in life, have learning experiences.
June 28, 2004 at 9:21 am #43311sciencefeelingMemberHi Someguy!
I am glad the advice that people is giving you is working.
For what you are telling me though, she really does not deserve your concern, not even to make her unhappy. She doesn´t seem to have deep feelings neither for you nor for the rest of people she knows. The best way NOT TO HURT YOURSELF, is to move one, go out with your friends, and girls you like, but NOT thinking about her, not doing it to hurt her, because that will just make it a longer recovery and a waste of time, and also, it won´t let you to enjoy the things you currently have to the fullest. Have fun because YOU deserve it after what you are going through, and YOU want to enjoy life.
Placing YOU instead of HER in your mind might seem only a language issue, but it is not, it is the first step to take control over your emotions, and don´t let her manipulate them. As far as…why she called you a flag? If you do as I said…soon you will realize it doesn´t even matter.
Hope it helps Someguy!
Natalia
June 28, 2004 at 10:35 am #43308PhilMemberYou don’t need to email her or text her or speak to her in person…Someone that tries to patronise you is not worth being in your life. Especially if they make you feel like s**t! The only reason she probably said that was for her to get the reaction she’s gotten from you, so if you dont show her how you’re trully feeling then she may see it as backfired. You’re clearly not a “fag” (well I hope so ;)) so why not laugh about it to yourself that she can’t manage a constructive way to “insult” you…I think it’s quite funny, I bet you have plenty of things you could criticise her that could send her into a state of depression. But thats beauty of being a decent person, you wouldn’t it! So it’s quite funny if you think about, all she could manage is “you’re a fag”…it’s like saying “you smell of poo and im better than you”…yep you guessed it, last time you heard that was in junior school!
More to the point, don’t give her the attention she’s seeking, let her get on with her drummy excuse for a life and hopefully see her end up in a gutter or as a prostitute…then we can properly laugh
June 29, 2004 at 12:22 am #43330CoxsackieVirusMemberJust read the emails, but dont send back, just ignoring her is a good enough of a punishment, and her cussing you out is really proving she just wants you to send back or to argue you want to be friends. Silence is sometimes the best punishment.
June 30, 2004 at 5:00 am #43320Someguy03MemberWell. A huge update. I had my best friend (her last Ex before me) over at my house and we were talking to her. I found out that she still likes him. It doesn’t bother me much, because they were a good couple. I also talked to her, and found out she still wants to be friends, which I am happy with. Life continues after all…Thanks you guys, your advice helped alot, I will keep everyone posted.
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