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August 30, 2004 at 11:34 pm #73341Someguy03Member
I, like Oreo, typed a 3 paragraph reply and then when clicked send, it said I had input the wrong password, and when I clicked my browsers back button it refreshed the page and I lost everything.
In a summary of what I previously wrote. I would suggest talking to her friends (without her) to find out whats going on (if she likes you / if she was asking you about a dance, etc).
And you don’t have to go up to girls and be like “Will you start hanging out with me so I can kill my fear of girls”
Just simply hang out with girls (doesn’t matter who). Once you are doing this you can get used to being around / talking to girls, and things should get better and easier.
August 31, 2004 at 5:14 pm #73381neo_ny_23Membergosh ihv the same problem. I m quite comfortable talking with all types of girls online and hv a huge buddy list but offline I suck talking with them. I just sometimes get speechless regarding what to talk about n wat not to coz all the time I just wonder “what if I say this and she gets annoyed or angry or thinks that I m stupid”. I do muster enough courage to talk sometimes but usualy the girls backoff as if they are not interested. I usualy talk about something funny to start with but somet times the girls dont find my “jokes” dat funny. 🙁 right now I m in my college cafeteria where there is a cute girl with whom I am trying to talk for like 1 month ( we hv met like 3 or 4 times while I bought some stuff from there ). we talked a bit. I remember that I hv seen her pic in my college calender( previous year’s calender ) and today I told her so. she smiled n said gud stuff but then she said “if my pic is there its cool. why dont u go n show me the calender? ” it was a perfect start till then coz I remember I hv thrown that calender like 4 months ago ( before meeting this girl ) while changing my appartments :(( . now all the time I feel that if I go on trying to talk with her more n more then she might assume that I m some stalker and might get annoyed also. any tips? well, 😛 the other day, I confessed that I am interested in her to another girl who works with her. so she kinda knows that I m interested in her…….. but God, dont know what to talk and how to start atalk. phew. I m so free with girls online but why the hell I suck offline n in real? :((
P.S. Add to that, I look crappy :(:mad:
August 31, 2004 at 10:56 pm #73359AwesomeSauceParticipantWell, yesterday, me and someguy03 had a long talk about it. One of the things he told me that I should talk to my crush’s friends about it first, especially the one that was at the dance with her, and ask her if her friend was really gonna say anything to me.
I told someguy that I didn’t even glance at her friend in the cafeteria. He said for me to take a look next time.
So today at lunch, I saw her walk in again, but I didn’t see anyone with her. She was walking to the table with a home lunch until she quickly turned around, got something from her friend that was in the lunch line, then turned around again and walked to a place to sit down. She sat on the table behind me, a couple of seats down. She ate alone for a minute, until a shorter girl in a red shirt sat down next to her and talked. That was the only girl I saw her communicating with, and I kept eating lunch. After a while, I looked back to where she was sitting, and she was gone. I took another minute to finish my lunch and then headed out of the cafeteria.
BTW, there’s this huge room in the front of the school called “The blue”(simply because the carpet and banches are blue) and everyone walks into that room when they’re done eating lunch. Pretty soon it fills up with crowds of people, with so much talking it’s hard to hear.
But when I walked out of the cafeteria, I saw her sitting on a bench, quietly reading by herself. That’s what I saw her do yesterday, too. I still wanted to see what her friends looked like, but anyway, I walked over to my friends for a minute.
I also went to the bathroom a minute later. When I walked out of the bathroom, I turned a corner, walked past the vending machines, and I would have bumped right into her if I hadn’t turned enough. I mean, I walked right frickin next to her, and I quickly walked away back where all of the students were talking.
A moment later, when I was standing by the wall nearer to the front of the school, I suddenly saw her and a group of friends walking right toward me, about a yard away, and I jumped over to the other side of the room before they were right next to me. Then I turned around, and observed who her friends were. I think there were only like 2 that I saw, and one of them I think was from my math class. Pretty soon a couple of other girls went over there too, and I recognised one of them as the tall punk-girl in my english class.
Then I noticed that she sat down and started reading her book again, quietly while the other girls around her talked, skipped around and laughed. I would remember what they look like.
Unfortunately, in math class, I must have been having too much fun(wow), or something, because I forgot to talk to that short girl. She was the one that was at the dance with my crush. Oh well, I could wait until English class to ask that other girl, the punk-girl that I remember her saying in english today that she has an electric guitar and liked music. I knew that she probably wasn’t TOO close of friends with the girl I like, even if they were friends at all, because it didn’t really seem like it. She wasn’t at the dance with her, either. But maybe I could get her email address out of her :p.
Unfortunately, when we were crowding out of class the last period(english), and by that time of day, the whole school is madness in the halls and I lost her in the crowd. Oh well, the girl that I really wanted to talk to was in my math class. Tommorow I will try to remember to ask her if her friend was really gonna say anything to me. I’m confident this time.
September 6, 2004 at 7:48 pm #73382AragornsQueen01ParticipantSounds to me like you are avoiding this…but thats just what I’m getting out of it. Is that really your picture on your website? 😮 It’s very nice. You seem to have a nice personality, you shouldn’t have a problem with the ladies.
September 6, 2004 at 8:24 pm #73360AwesomeSauceParticipantYes, that IS my picture. I always try to be as nice as I can :), and when I’m around other friends, I can be a laughing-machine. I tried to look good that day. I’m really tall for my age, too… a lot of people think I’m like 15 years old. Anyway, I don’t think ladies have a problem with me(or let’s hope so), I just have a problem with talking to them. It’s not like I stutter or sweat whenever I do, but it’s just shyness.
September 6, 2004 at 8:54 pm #73387kyuubiMemberyour not even 15 yet?….lol…give it time..give it another year or 2 and you’ll learn, when I was little I was really shy talking to girls too..but as you grow, you realize that they are not as hard to talk to as you think…
September 12, 2004 at 4:30 am #73379colinMemberHaha, I remember in 2nd grade we had a “dance” at our school. A girl named Jodi (I think) asked me to it. I couldn’t think of a reason not to go, so I said yes. I evevn got flowerd for her and everything. Then at the dance, I didn’t talk to her ONCE. But that was in 2nd grade so it doesn’t really count. You will ALWAYS be a little shy. I got over that a few years ago, but every once in a while, I still get a little shy around girls I don’t know. Like I’m in high school now, and our homecoming dance is coming up. There’s this girl that I really wanna ask, but I don’t know her very much. She is best friend’s really good friend (think about that for a minute, I promise it makes sense) so I see her alot, but I can’t really talk to her, and I don’t know why… I mean, I gotta start talkin to this girl, be friends with her, and ask her to homecoming in a week or less! So don’t sweat it man, a lot of other people are going through the same thing as you are. And you will get over the whole not-being-able-to-talk-to-Veronica thing. Just be patient and start talking to her a little at a time.
Hope this kind of helps.
-ColinSeptember 22, 2004 at 10:53 pm #73361AwesomeSauceParticipantOk, well, I know I haven’t posted in this topic for a while, but I think I’m getting less and less shy. I’m positive she’s noticed me, after making eye-contact with her like 7 times over the last couple of weeks. I also found out where she hides after lunch ;). She sits with her circle of friends at the other end of the hall, where nobody else is. No, I don’t SPY on her. Anyway, I’ve been getting myself straight, and I feel more confident. Who knows, it might be tomorrow.
September 30, 2004 at 12:31 am #73329sciencefeelingMemberAwesome…any update on this subject that you want to share? You said it might be tomorrow, so I was wondering…
Keep us posted,
NataliaSeptember 30, 2004 at 1:14 am #73388kyuubiMemberQuote:quote:Originally posted by AwesomeSauceOk, well, I know I haven’t posted in this topic for a while, but I think I’m getting less and less shy. I’m positive she’s noticed me, after making eye-contact with her like 7 times over the last couple of weeks. I also found out where she hides after lunch ;). She sits with her circle of friends at the other end of the hall, where nobody else is. No, I don’t SPY on her. Anyway, I’ve been getting myself straight, and I feel more confident. Who knows, it might be tomorrow.
lol….good for you…..rock on little bro!… Nothing to it!
September 30, 2004 at 1:37 am #73362AwesomeSauceParticipantAh, thanks Natalia. It feels nice to know that somebody cares. :rolleyes:
Quote:quote:Originally posted by kyuubilol….good for you…..rock on little bro!… Nothing to it!
Well, actually, I don’t think I’ve rocked on at all since then…
But I guess I have to do something[/b], either try to progress in this somehow, or totally forget about it, or else everyday will be going in an endless loop because I’m always thinking about her and I always feel anxious.
And she’s always with her friends after lunch so I can never find a good time to talk to her when she’s alone, and she’s in none of my classes and it’s way to hecktic in the hallways inbetween classes to even try. Anyway, I’m still stuck. I wish I knew her email address… that is, if she even has one, or uses a computer at all.
September 30, 2004 at 2:33 am #73320Jeff HesterKeymasterMan do it face to face! It’s the best way. I know it can be a bit nerve wrecking depending on the kind of guy you are but hey think of it this way, if it doesn’t kill you, why not? Best of wishes dude.
September 30, 2004 at 3:21 am #73389kyuubiMemberQuote:quote:Originally posted by AwesomeSauceAh, thanks Natalia. It feels nice to know that somebody cares. :rolleyes:
Quote:quote:Originally posted by kyuubilol….good for you…..rock on little bro!… Nothing to it!
Well, actually, I don’t think I’ve rocked on at all since then…
But I guess I have to do something[/b], either try to progress in this somehow, or totally forget about it, or else everyday will be going in an endless loop because I’m always thinking about her and I always feel anxious.
And she’s always with her friends after lunch so I can never find a good time to talk to her when she’s alone, and she’s in none of my classes and it’s way to hecktic in the hallways inbetween classes to even try. Anyway, I’m still stuck. I wish I knew her email address… that is, if she even has one, or uses a computer at all.
maybe picking an alone time wouldn’t be the best time…it can feel more weird if you have her alone. Just pick a couple of friends you are comfutable with and go up and talk to everyone all at once…except you get the girl of your dreams. Do it a couple of times and you can fly solo….lol…hope that helps….
September 30, 2004 at 5:06 am #73330sciencefeelingMemberMmm…isn’t there a possibility for you or your group of friends to sit with her group of friends for lunch? Like a two groups getting together? Also, even if she is not on your classes, couldn’t you ask her during lunch if she would want to go do homework together to the library sometime? I know this last option involves going up to her and asking directly…but in the end you are going to have to face that moment one way or another.
Feeling bad everyday and letting it go by it is not good, you need to break the loop, otherwise you will just get used to feeling bad. What can you lose? right now, you already have a “no”, maybe if you ask you will get a yes. The important thing is losing the fear to rejection. If she says no, then her loss, whatever. Only those who try can be rejected, in the end, those who get more were more rejected too.
Natalia
September 30, 2004 at 5:38 am #73363AwesomeSauceParticipantHeh. MY group of friends with HER group of friends? I can barely even visualize that. Sure, my friends hang out with girls sometimes, but not ones as mellow as the girl I like or HER group of friends. Actually, I don’t hang out with most of my friends too much anymore because they’ve been turning into jerks.
It think it would be much easier to say something to her if I’d never knew her before. Remember what I said in my first post? when I saw her a few weeks ago, I had immediately recognized her as the girl that used to chase me around in third grade. After that, she went to another school and I had totally forgotten about her, and I had not talked to her let alone SEE her for like 4 years until a few weeks ago(but I had not said anything to her). Anyway, I think that’s making it hard.
Whenever I see her at lunch or in the halls and we make eye-contact, she usually jerks her head away and ignores me. But she probably doesn’t do that to everyone? she must do that to me because she remembers. She remembers who I am, just like I remember who she is, and she is just as shy as I am. So I hope you can understand how that would feel kind of akward.
Somebody please reply :rolleyes:
Anyone?
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