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January 1, 2005 at 7:08 pm #73375AwesomeSauceParticipantcuteb0mberchick wrote:so you saying you might do something wrong in font of a girl you like?That might be a tiny part of it… I’m not really sure why I’m nervous, but just give me a break for a little bit, ok? I’ll post if there’s an update.January 2, 2005 at 10:27 pm #73325Jeff HesterKeymaster
This better have a good ending, it’s been on To Be Continued…for a long time. You said yourself she likes you so I’m pretty sure things will turn out for the best. Why am I so interested in what happens you ask? Because I see me when I read your posts. That’s exactly how I was in junior high and part of middle school. Anyway I can’t really push you, but you’ll have to get over the nervous thing sooner or later or you’ll miss out on great chances you could have had with a girl. Best of luck.
January 2, 2005 at 11:25 pm #73376AwesomeSauceParticipantOh, and I forgot to add: I promise it will be very soon. And thank you for your support, MiamiGuy. I’m getting more and more confident, though having a little bit of doubt at the same time. But overall I feel good about it now. Thanks.
February 13, 2005 at 1:08 am #73377AwesomeSauceParticipantOkay, well, if you’ve been visiting my blog occasionally, you know what’s been going concerning this topic lately. Since I don’t want to take the time to type it again, I will copy the exact same words from my latest blog entry as of February 12 2005.
It’s not been going on as planned.So, yesterday I finally found out that the girl I like was going to the dance. Well, If you don’t know, I’m kind of shy with girls. But I was determined this time to ask her to dance. She even knows that I was going to ask her, and that I like her, because her friend even told her, and I even sent her a Valentines lollipop.
When the dance started after school, a bunch of people piled in, you know, just one of those stupid Middle school dances. Well, it was hard, but whenever I built up the courage to go up to the girl and ask her to dance, she would run away from me. Alright… Alright, let’s try this again. She and her friend were standing out in the hall, so I went out too, to get a drink of water. Then as I was walking over to both of them. But the girl I like, she glanced at me and ran back into the gym, leaving me and her friend just standing there. She didn’t look scared at all after she saw me and ran. She would smile and/or giggle, then run.
There was a DJ on the gym stage, and soon he spoke through the loudspeaker “Alright, this is our last song…” Oh jeez, oh jeez, I have to get this over with… “…Last song!!!”
“OK! quit rubbing it in my face!”
I quickly found her, and her friend… but she ran away again. Her friend knew that I liked her, and she was even trying to pull her toward me, as I kind of stood there and smiled… but eventually she ran away with a grin on her face. I asked her friend right then, “Is she just shy, or something?
“No, she just thinks you’re trying to stalk her.”
“So she’s afraid of me?”
“Apparently.”OH, oh, alright. What I waste of… one, two, three, four, five… six months of trying to talk to this girl. And now I find out that she’s afraid of me… and it was about… two months ago when two people proved to me that she liked me? So, for almost the rest of the day I was sad (I still am), she was thinking that I was trying to stalk her at the dance. But later last night I was talking to my brother-in-law on the phone about it, and he said something that I had never thought of. He said something like:
“Well, maybe she really didn’t think you were trying to stalk her. Maybe she just didn’t want to admit she was too nervous/scared/shy to dance with you, so she just made up some joke or excuse like ‘I think he’s trying to stalk me’.”Clever thinking. I think that was most likely what was going on. And I have never seen her hang out with boys at all, so I can understand why she would be afraid to dance with a boy for the first time. Why the heck would she think I’m a stalker? I feel like I should apologize to her. But what would I apologize for? Once again, I think she was just making up an excuse, or joking. And after that valentine I sent her? was it a waste of money? that should have been an obvious clue that I wanted to be friends and dance with her, not that I was trying to stalk her. I stalker wouldn’t try to dance with someone, right? I had no intention to scare her at all.
My sister told me:
“Maybe she just has a really boring life, and she’s trying to make it more dramatic by thinking someone’s trying to stalk her.” Hahah. I doubt it… 😉People are telling me to just forget about her, and get on with life… and try not to focus on one girl so much. And I’m still very young, and I should wait… but it’s hard. But people are telling me to start being friends with them, and talk with them more. I’m getting better at it. But it’s hard to let go… after 6 months of being obsessed with this girl. I guess I should back off for now, and just be friends with girls. I will keep doing that. This is a big deal for me, people. What will go on with this over the next school week, only time will tell.
February 13, 2005 at 3:01 pm #73337OreoMemberWOW….where do we start here? It sounds like BOTH of you have a shyness thing. And maybe she LIKES the idea that you are “stalking her” because she knows you really are not. (Nobody likes a real stalker! But if she was smiling and giggling and her friend mentioned before that you liked her…she does not think of you as a stalker). Though…some of the things you did MIGHT have come off that way…your intentions were good and you (BOTH) are just learning here. What is important is how you play it at school on Moday. Play totally cool….YOU DID IT! You actually got up the nerve to ask her…but SHE did not have the nerve to be asked. She sounds like a young girl, some girls are ready at that age to talk to boys and have boyfriends and some still like to giggle and hang out with their girlfriends and occasionally play barbies.
Well, as far as being “obcessed” with some one…that’s not such a healthy thing. The advice to look on to other girls and be friends is very good advice. I mean COME ON…by the time you are what…(16?) you are SOOOO not going to want to be with just one girl for very long (there are exceptions 😉 some guys do want that). But once you are married…that’s it mister (at least that’s SUPPOSED to be it if you are in a good one!) no more girls, except ONE! Now how exactly are you supposed to know the kind of woman you like and can spend the rest of your live with unless you date a few? Not every woman you date is going to be the right kind, and then you know “I NEED TO STAY AWAY…FAR FAR FAAAAAAAAAAR AWAY FROM WOMEN LIKE THAT!” It goes the same way for girls with guys…they need to find out and learn what they do and don’t want. This girl (once both of you grow up) might end up being the one or might end up a blurb in your memory of middle school. But isn’t it better to know that some one is the RIGHT one because you know what else lurking out there than to think “Hmmm, I think she’s the right one but I’m not sure because I don’t know what other women are like.”
Now go out, have fun, be yourself and be happy…don’t think about that girl or any girl that much for now. You’ll find the more you enjoy yourself and have fun the more girls will just automatically be attracted to you. Some might just want to be friends…and I will tell you from experience, I gave my fair share of girl advice to my guy friends and they helped me out with guys. It’s a good deal…don’t poo poo the idea of being friends with girls until you’ve tried it! Things will all work out for the best! 🙂 And you’ll always have us here for you!February 14, 2005 at 1:38 pm #73332sciencefeelingMemberMmmm…her attitude sounds kind of weird to me. I don´t think you are a stalkier at all, and believe me when I say I have experience on that matter. She is just playing the “oh, he is such a stalker” game in front of her friends. In my opinion you should stop paying attention to her from now on, so she learns that saying things like that about someone to her friends is not at all right. She can like you or not, but is really wrong to make you look as a stalker, when you aren´t (believe when I say you aren´t, cause I know the type well).
So…forget about her, If i were you I would be really pissed at her for saying something like that about me, spreading rumours is not nice at all.
Natalia.-February 15, 2005 at 1:08 am #73344Someguy03MemberIn my opinion, any girl who is not willing to stay and talk to you (even in middle school) is not worth your time. If she was any decent at all, she would’ve stayed and explained, rather than run away and be a jerk.
But you must see…if she doesn’t like you, then you wasted like 6 months liking her and not talking to her. Imagine if you wouldve talked to her in the first week, you would’ve saved urself so much time.
In 6th grade I had this crush on a girl and like kept staring at her and following her around but was always too scared to talk to her. Finally, I ended up going into her science class because of a schedule change. When the teacher assigned us seats and she saw she was going to sit next to me, she looked over at her friend and smacked her hands down on the desk and had that expression of “Oh god, I don’t want to sit with this freak.” Then she moved to Wisconsin. But just a few months ago she came back with her friend to visit. She saw that I had grown my hair out and ditched my buzz, and was all over me. Why? Because she is a shallow piece of dirt, and still is. =)
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February 15, 2005 at 2:21 am #73338OreoMemberAnd you took her for every bit of her shallowness….didn’t you? 😛
February 15, 2005 at 1:16 pm #73326Jeff HesterKeymasterMan, the giggly girl type. Perhaps she is playing hard to get, but still she shouldn’t say things like you’re stalking her. That could even ruin your chances with future girls if that gets around, though I think it’s just something that will stick between her and her friend. Anyways I’m glad to hear you got the courage to ask her, that’s a big step already, but seeing how she acted pretty immature about it, then I suggest you back off. Even if you still like her, pretend you’re not interested anymore, or act more like a friend, saying hi and the usual smile but no advances toward her or letting her friend know you still like her. If her friend asks if you do, just say “I’m not sure anymore”. Really this girl may be shy but she should have at least the decency to say yes or no to a dance instead of run away.
Like Oreo said, there will be lots of other girls you will fall for during your time in middle school and high school. For some odd, out of this world reason, most girls start paying attention to you when you start paying less attention to them, and of course I’m talking about during the time you’re in middle school and high school. Once you’re older they want you to pay attention to them all the time. At least in my experience. I really think you should start playing it cool now, and pretend you don’t like her, both her friend and her will want to know why and one of them will approach you.
Again, I’m glad you got the courage to ask her out, now get the courage to talk to more girls just as friends or anything and you will see how much easier it will be to figure them out, and to get info. The way girls pass information is way faster than the fastest internet. I don’t know how they do it.
February 16, 2005 at 12:11 am #73378AwesomeSauceParticipantThanks for making me realize that I am pissed at her, and she is kind of a jerk. But actually, I am glad this is over. It’s been making my life so stressful, but now I feel so much happier and relaxed… that’s a good thing, right? anyway, know I’m not focusing so much on one girl, and I’m feeling good about it. I am still making friends with girls and having fun, although I’m still overcoming my shyness.
And, oh jeez, I think my first impression of her was that she was mellow and mature, and even though later on I probably realized that wasn’t the case, but I liked her anyway? oops.
We’ll just have to see, if she ever confronts me in the future. By the way, here’s a picture of me.
February 16, 2005 at 12:35 am #73400LLXerxesMemberI highly doubt she’s telling the truth. That’s what a guy (or girl, we don’t know what it is so we called it a Sebastian) who always says to people (especially people he likes) and says “How do you know, do you stalk me?”. Stalker is an overused term. Screw her (not litterally), if she’s gonna be a Sebastian, ignore her. I know how hard it is to ignore a girl, but, find somebody else.
I would post my picture, but then you’d realize I’m too young to join this forum, and to have AIM and ICQ (maybe even under 13 *gasp*)
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